Speaking up is hard. (This story is a 5 minute read.)I had some church issues to address this week and that was a big thing for someone who has many issues with Christianity and churches. 🤷♀️It's easy to put a sign on a church lawn, but being performative and being genuine are not the sameContinue reading "Figuring Out Healthy Church by Speaking Up"
Why Evangelicals struggle with Deconstruction
Deconstruction can never be: “this far you may come, but no farther”... (As the book of Job describes an authoritative God drawing boundary lines for the ocean.) It's pretty much antithetical to deconstruction to start with your conclusion and then be closed to testing it out. Coming to the table with a hypothesis but onlyContinue reading "Why Evangelicals struggle with Deconstruction"
The Problem with Church Discipline is the Whole System
Maybe the questions around church discipline and fallen leadership points to a bigger discussion to be had.
Breaking Free
For those who have started deconstructing because churches have been closed and it's the first time you are not running around serving and you are not so busy you can't think anymore, you might enjoy our two part series of our (Cally, Dave, Nate and my) journey out of evangelicalism. Part two drops today. HereContinue reading "Breaking Free"
Coming to Terms With the Messed Up Parts of the Bible
Whether it's owning women as property, slavery or God-sanctioned genocide: within the pages of the bible you can find all of these and more. To make matters worse, these disturbing images are sometimes assumed to be read as instructions for what people claim God endorses and finds acceptable as well as who he rejects. PeopleContinue reading "Coming to Terms With the Messed Up Parts of the Bible"
Outrage Culture or Tone-Policing?
When someone complains about outrage culture I usually can guess they have the skin color of privilege. Imagine if it's exhausting to hear someone crying out in pain "outraged" , how much more exhausting it must be like to be the target of marginalization continually. Instead of thinking everyone is entitled to their own opinions,Continue reading "Outrage Culture or Tone-Policing?"
No Shades of Grey
A middle ground is an exhausting place to stay. I don't believe in it anymore. Oh, I believe in a middle ground between Ketchup and Mayonnaise (I know this is controversial here, I mix those two, but stay with me), when it comes to people and values and politics our middle grounds are nebulous orContinue reading "No Shades of Grey"
Full Mutuality Requires Full Intersectionality
Some people fighting against domestic abuse or patriarchal norms have asked me to tone down the LGBTQ posts. Other people who care deeply about spiritual abuse want me to stop talking about white privilege. But here's the thing about it: you don't uplift any group by deliberately ignoring other oppressed groups. The excuse often getsContinue reading "Full Mutuality Requires Full Intersectionality"
White Comfort Warps Virtues
In the last two weeks my newsfeed has been flooded by white excitement. Between Botham Jeans brother forgiving Amber, the white cop who shot this black man for no reason, in his own home, to a video of Ellen talking about why she was kind to George W. Bush, I have no shortage of examplesContinue reading "White Comfort Warps Virtues"
Owning Your Story
As women we were raised on stories of a “Prince Charming” coming to our rescue. The old Disney movies created and reinforced this narrative. I’m thankful many of the new movies are switching that up and giving women a bit more agency than the one-dimensional characters of old. Growing up, these were our bedtime storiesContinue reading "Owning Your Story"
Full Mutuality 
