They earned the right to the access that the name of their abuser brings them. Now it would be different if they werenโt married to their abusers and went around using the last name open doors and what not
Let that man be, there are so many people that are restricted and unnecessarily criticized in our community for doing what they love. His individuality doesnโt take away from him being man, his sportsmanship or lack of doesnโt take away from that either.