When my parents divorced and remarried they continued to jointly raise us with their new partners.
I had 4 parents, and they ominously referred to themselves as "The Parent Council". In hindsight I'm incredibly grateful for it
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meatball times
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meatball times
@meatballtimes
same as it ever was
New York City
Joined November 2022
- has anyone stopped to ask WHY students cheat? would a buddhist monk "cheat" at meditation? would an artist "cheat" at painting? no. when process and outcomes are aligned, there's no incentive to cheat. so what's happening differently at colleges? the answer is in the article:
- Replying to @meatballtimesAt different times in my life I have needed each of my 4 parent's strengths, and without their support I have no idea what I would have done instead. It literally takes a village - or a council - to raise a child, and it's tragic that we have lost sight of that
- Replying to @meatballtimesThe Parent Council was like a supreme court. You were raised primarily by whichever parent was in the house, but big decisions or problems got escalated. They met ~weekly. "Mom I want to have a car" "Hmm ok, let me ask The Council" 😅 2/
- fucking insane. some fish use electrical signals to navigate; if two fish on the same frequency encounter each other, they automatically switch frequencies to avoid "signal jamming" each other. exactly like how your wifi router does at home. wow.
- Replying to @meatballtimesThey covered each other's strengths and weaknesses, and when my family had mental or physical health crises all 4 of them worked together, and it was *still* hard to support all 5 kids. I cannot imagine doing it with 1 or 2 parents! 4/
- Replying to @meatballtimesEach of my 4 parents has a very different style; My dad is playful and supportive but not super emotional, My stepmom is caring and emotionally intelligent but not practical, My mom is intellectual and kind but very soft, My stepdad is strong and grounded 3/
- Replying to @OGTaylorBOh I didn't even mention the adopted sibling or my dad being best friends with his ex's sister's husband or my cousins being like de-facto siblings Or how half my siblings are furries Or constantly arguing about corn subsides at dinner My family is weird as hell
- "Lmao they reinvented the bus" Ok but consider if they can profitably run this route that means *buses are failing to serve a brain dead obvious route that everyone uses* and something has gone horribly wrong with bus transitUber's launching shuttles in NYC to take people from Manhattan to LaGuardia • 14-passenger vans • Trips every 30 minutes • $18 to and from the airport • Three pick up/drop off locations (Port Authority, Grand Central, Penn Station) It makes a lot of sense, 15% of bookings
- I've been feeling very under-nourished in my male friendships recently I think there is something just kind of wrong with the default mode of male socialization/communication, something men aren't taught about relating to people for instance --
- one skill that massively improved my career: discovering The Game. after failling promotion despite excellent reviews, I became a friendly but totally cynical opportunist, doing only what would look good strangely, certain people started totally opening up to me:
- Replying to @meatballtimesmy male friend's response to me crying on his sofa? "dude, I'm sorry, that's crazy. What topping do you want on your pizza?" what the fuck? friends for 15 years, this is his response? not all guys are like this, but could you imagine literally any woman doing this?
- being in a relationship is like building an enormous imaginary castle together it starts as sketches and blueprints, but over time you will inevitably create a shared, beautiful monument to the life you'll have growing old but tragically:
- Replying to @meatballtimesby revealed preference, students must think the work they do in class is a waste of time. fake bonding activities and "hippie gardening" clearly aren't worth their time, so they outsource to AI. anything "fun" or interesting, they still do by hand.
