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Progressively deepening love is the goal, an end in and of itself. If there is a point, it’s that.
Erik Newton
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- I lost my wife to cancer last month — our daughter lost her mother. I’ve hesitated sharing any of this, but there is something I want to record. Fair warning: this is mostly about love.
- Replying to @newtonlawI miss you my dear. Thank you for all that you gave. To love you was a blessing.
- Replying to @newtonlawLooked at from the other direction, her regret became an insight. The only thing that matters AT ALL is the quality of the relationships with the people we love. Focus on that.
- A gentle reminder that the only thing you will care about when you are dying is the quality of your relationships with those you love. That will mostly be measured in terms of time. Just go be with them.
- Replying to @newtonlawI offer that at the center is family, community, and connection. I know it sounds trite in a tweet, but I can guarantee you with absolute certainty that when you’re dying (and you will die), these are the ONLY things you will care about.
- Replying to @newtonlawI’m devastated. A hole has opened where I thought my identity lived. I’m discovering new ways that I loved her every day, and grieving each, and trying to celebrate them.
- Replying to @newtonlawOur new depth made her death all the more painful, but of course I wouldn’t trade it for the world, not for anything. The privilege of knowing and loving her so deeply outpaces every other experience I’ve had. It’s the one thing that matters.
- Replying to @newtonlawHer change was palpable. She softened and opened. She began to be with those around her in a kind of total surrender. We all felt that she was experiencing us without a filter somehow. We were seen and loved. It was beautiful. It was overpowering. It was humbling beyond measure.
- Thank you all for your extraordinary outpouring of support. Yesterday when I posted this, it was one of the very hard days. I expected to reach maybe two or three friends, and I posted mostly for catharsis. Your responses have made a world of difference. Thank you.I lost my wife to cancer last month — our daughter lost her mother. I’ve hesitated sharing any of this, but there is something I want to record. Fair warning: this is mostly about love.
- Replying to @newtonlawThat depth of love wasn’t available to us any earlier for whatever reason, but it is available. I want to make it available to everyone by reminding you it exists.
- Replying to @newtonlawAubrie shifted into a deeper love about six weeks before she died. During her time in the hospital, her one regret was that she hadn’t spent more time deepening relationships with the people she cared about.
- Replying to @newtonlawWe had a delightful life together. Full of intense highs and lows. Food, travel — all the surface things. But two elements were vastly more important to us than any of the rest: 1) our extraordinary little daughter, and 2) the quality of the time we all spent together.
- Replying to @newtonlawAnd yes, we all have obligations in life that need our attention, and those things pull us away from contemplating love with 100% of our awareness. That’s true. But at the same time we must remember what’s behind our desire to do those things in the first place, we must remember
