Departure

May. 13th, 2025 02:00 pm
aome: (i miss dead people)
[personal profile] aome
Yes, I've done an absolute SHIT job of keeping up. Again. I keep thinking my brain cells will get it together so I can keep up, but when I have some time I often only have the cells to doomscroll and not much else.

So, let's cut to the chase, shall we? My mom died on Sunday. Yes, on Mother's Day. On the one hand, this was - as a friend (who also recently lost her mom) put it - a "jerk move." On the other hand, she gifted me with no longer having to worry about her, because the last week of her life was ROUGH, as she declined, briefly rallied to full alertness and even some hunger, but also being absolutely convinced one of her attendants was impersonating me and trying to kill her - and then swiftly declined again for the final 1.5 days until her death. And all I could do was rely on updates from the team of friends who were keeping her company around the clock that final week. It was excruciating.

MiniPlu and I had gone out for 1.5 days *just* as she was beginning to noticeably decline (about 10 days before her actual death), to say goodbye, but that was as long as we could stay. So at least there was that. But then I just had to wait it out from across the country.

Still working to set the memorial date (some time in the next month), which will make my 9th trip to CA since the week of Thanksgiving. Won't try to clear out the house until summer. Meanwhile, my father's house FINALLY sold - is closing this Friday. It's a house flipper, which I'm not happy about, but a sale is a sale, so ... well, at least that one thing will be over. And I can start afresh with the NEXT house. *bangs head*

Brief summary of other life bits: left shoulder developing what I suspect is small rotator cuff injury. Won't know if there's an official tear until Thurs. Have been undergoing PT to strengthen it, which has only made all my neck and shoulder and clavicle muscles hurt like hell. I've also applied for a couple other library jobs that I did not get. Two broke up with his bf - exbf really needs to get better at getting his life together. He immediately launched back into his dating app and has connected by text with someone else. Will had a brief bout of vertigo when he was lying down, for a couple of nights, which then went away. MiniPlu is frustrated that she's being bi-erased in her own attempts to find romance, but she's otherwise fine.

The horrors of the current administration know no end.

That is all.

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Date: 2025-05-13 06:28 pm (UTC)
meathiel: (Default)
From: [personal profile] meathiel
I'm not surprised you didn't have the spoons to update.

I'm very sorry for your loss! *hugs*

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Date: 2025-05-13 07:29 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] smallhobbit
Really sorry to hear about your Mom, even though the worry is now over. Sending you all best wishes at this time.

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Date: 2025-05-13 11:44 pm (UTC)
dine: (dandelion)
From: [personal profile] dine
I'm sorry to hear of your mother's death - and of the hassles you have ahead of you.

hopefully your shoulder is easily treatable, and you heal well soon

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Date: 2025-05-14 12:55 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] spiffikins
You've had A Lot Going On for a long time now - just keeping your head above water sounds like it is taking all your effort.

I'm glad your dad's house sold - that is one big thing off your shoulders - and hopefully your mom's house won't be quite the same big project!

As always - big hugs!

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Date: 2025-05-14 01:19 am (UTC)
coffeetime: (Default)
From: [personal profile] coffeetime
Dang, what a fun springtime you're having. Sorry to hear the mom situation played out like that, it sounds exhausting.

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Date: 2025-05-14 03:37 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] hamsterwoman
I'm very sorry for your loss, and that the last week was so rough. Glad that you and MiniPlu got to say good-bye close to the end.

Also sorry that Two and his first boyfriend didn't work out. Wishing both him and MiniPlu good luck with their future romance adventures.

Yay for the Oregon house selling -- good luck with the California one. (Hopefully a house in the Bay Area should be easier to sell than one in such a remote location?)

*hugs and good thoughts for all of you for all the things*

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Date: 2025-05-14 11:19 am (UTC)
tielan: harry from wizard of Azkaban looking grim (HP - not strong)
From: [personal profile] tielan
I'm so sorry to hear abour your mom.

I hope that the sale of your dad's property goes smoothly, and that you get a breather before you have to do the other house.

And, just as a note regarding the kids: I am so so so SO glad that I was done with dating and all before apps. SO GLAD.

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Date: 2025-05-14 01:01 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] nagi_schwarz
I am so sorry about your loss. You have been through so much recently. I hope your shoulder injury isn’t too severe and that PT will help!

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Date: 2025-10-10 03:25 am (UTC)
coffeetime: (moocow)
From: [personal profile] coffeetime
I actually visited your DW today to make sure I hadn't missed a post. It's been a while - hope everything is okay.

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