[bug](cherry-pick) Fix coredump in aggregation node's destruction

[xy720]

Proposed changes

cherry-pick: #28684

Further comments

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[xy720]

run buildall

[github-actions]

clang-tidy review says "All clean, LGTM! 👍"

[doris-robot]

TeamCity be ut coverage result:
Function Coverage: 37.76% (7995/21172)
Line Coverage: 29.46% (64962/220496)
Region Coverage: 28.94% (33423/115504)
Branch Coverage: 24.81% (17151/69132)
Coverage Report: http://coverage.selectdb-in.cc/coverage/7b82d6677fec2a02cf308b56e6456624403b4df9_7b82d6677fec2a02cf308b56e6456624403b4df9/report/index.html

[xy720]

run clickbench

[doris-robot]

(From new machine)TeamCity pipeline, clickbench performance test result:
the sum of best hot time: 51.4 seconds
stream load tsv: 583 seconds loaded 74807831229 Bytes, about 122 MB/s
stream load json: 20 seconds loaded 2358488459 Bytes, about 112 MB/s
stream load orc: 65 seconds loaded 1101869774 Bytes, about 16 MB/s
stream load parquet: 32 seconds loaded 861443392 Bytes, about 25 MB/s
insert into select: 30.0 seconds inserted 10000000 Rows, about 333K ops/s
storage size: 17164024513 Bytes