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microbieWell, so much for the hopes that D. was becoming more thoughtful. Last Saturday, he mentioned that he and his wife may be going out of town next Saturday (today). I said, "well, call me as soon as you know for sure, okay?" He said, "Okay, but if I don't, I'll call you Saturday morning." Arrgh!!! Prompt as could be, at 8:45, my phone rings. He is talking on a cell phone and saying we should arrange to meet two weeks from now (we both agreed already not to meet 31 August). I had thought about going away myself that weekend, do some camping and stargazing with ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
seventhsister, but now I feel I ought to stay here that weekend so D. and I can work. He's already slipped so much since we've been meeting only a couple times a month. And I know I need to be assertive and tell him that he can't continue to call me Saturday mornings and cancel, but I hate doing that sort of thing. I always feel as though I'm being a bitch by putting my foot down. At least I know how to react to being taken for granted.
My goal for the day is to get back on a normal sleeping schedule. I was up half the night because I slept half the day yesterday with that migraine. The cruellest thing about a migraine is that it's hard to read with one. So I'm forced to lie in bed, blocking out as much light as possible, and basically do nothing. Very frustrating, and contributes to my general feelings of uselessness.
seventhsister, but now I feel I ought to stay here that weekend so D. and I can work. He's already slipped so much since we've been meeting only a couple times a month. And I know I need to be assertive and tell him that he can't continue to call me Saturday mornings and cancel, but I hate doing that sort of thing. I always feel as though I'm being a bitch by putting my foot down. At least I know how to react to being taken for granted.My goal for the day is to get back on a normal sleeping schedule. I was up half the night because I slept half the day yesterday with that migraine. The cruellest thing about a migraine is that it's hard to read with one. So I'm forced to lie in bed, blocking out as much light as possible, and basically do nothing. Very frustrating, and contributes to my general feelings of uselessness.
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Date: 2002-08-24 07:29 am (UTC)But I do think that it's okay to set up boundaries.
If D. did not meet on the agreed schedule, this should not stop you from camping and star gazing.
You're a resource for D. but you're not his crutch.
He must build his own crutches, and you're just there to help out a bit with choosing the wood.
Sorry to put two cents in--I know you have already thought this through--but I did not want you to miss out on stargazing--especially when Venus is so lovely right now.
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Date: 2002-08-24 08:17 pm (UTC)But who knows, maybe between now and then I'll work up the ability to go away that weekend.
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Date: 2002-08-24 09:44 pm (UTC)Look, I know this happens to a lot of students. They think they can stop after they've learned a bit, and they don't realise how quickly it can be forgotten if they don't keep practising.
Sorry, this is not as diplomatic as gurdonark, but you've reached an impasse with D that has to be broken one way or another. You're the teacher, so do your part of the job and don't take responsibility for his part of it
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Date: 2002-08-25 02:09 am (UTC)migranes
Re: migranes
Date: 2002-08-24 08:17 pm (UTC)