Ertakar Adoption

Feb. 12th, 2026 02:58 pm
armaina: (talon erta serene)
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So there's this worldbuilding prompt thing on Bluesky now and it posed this question
https://bsky.app/profile/oc-world-asks.myatproto.social/post/3meniu5sckk2t

Is adoption a concept in your constructed world's civilization(s)? Is it a legal process? Is it stigmatized? Do the peoples in your civilization(s) see child rearing as a community project, or more private? Does trans-lineage adoption exist? How about trans-species adoption?

I made a small response on the platform but I hate truncating my speech and making annoying long threads so I am going to address this question with the depth id deserves, here.

First, I think we need to address the issue of what causes a child to require being adopted in the first place. At its most vague it is because the child is abandoned either voluntarily or involuntarily. From there we have to interrogate those factors.

What would cause a child to be abandoned voluntarily?

  • The child is unwanted, for reasons that can include:
    • The pregnancy itself was unwanted and could not be prevented before birth.
    • The child is behavioraly difficult to care for.
    • The existence of the child causes social conflict.
  • The family unable to care for the child.
    • Housing is insufficient for another child.
    • They are unable to keep the whole family fed
    • Health is too expensive to keep up with

What would cause a child to be abandoned involuntarily?

  • The parents are either dead or missing.
  • The parents were deemed unfit and the child was removed.


I went through all the effort to itemize these caveats because as I start to explain the specifics of Ertakar social structure and world view, you'll have a better understanding of what I mean when I say, abandoned children are extremely uncommon in Ertakar society.

First is the matter of pregnancy itself. Contraceptives and other birth control is something that is freely available, easy to access, and socially accepted as normal and important. This means the chances of there being 'unwanted' children by way of undesired pregnancy is exceedingly rare. Related to this, medical assistance is very easy to access and not monetized. This means any complications with the pregnancy, disability, health, and so on are taken care of as needed without one's income status being a factor at all.

After that, is housing. Territories exist, so there is 'ownership' in that, but the idea that individuals monetarily own land is absurd to them across all cultures. Because of this social perception, the very concept of providing some currency or exchange just to live in a place is absurd. Pay for the labor of the home to live in, sure, but to remain there? Of course not. This means the fear of loosing housing is nonexistent, if you have a home, its yours. And especially in the case of the capital my story will take place in, housing is open and divvied out to anyone that asks. You put in requests for what you need and move as much or as little as you need. This is important for matters of disability, where residents are provided the home that meets their needs, so any family with a child that has certain disabilities they can be provided housing that accommodates them and thus ease the strain on the family as a whole. Other communities of Ertakar are of similar minds to provide as a community even if they do it in different ways with different expectations.

Finally, is food. Ertkar are active hunters and facultative carnivores. This means their diet even in their 'modern' day consists of prey they hunt themselves. This means there is no 'food industry' which mean food isn't something you pay for so the factor of hunger is only caused by environmental factors, not artificially constructed ones. If you can hunt you can eat, and if you can't hunt there is community there to help you hunt or do it for you.

All these factors make the effort of childrearing far less stressful, which gives families more means to address any interpersonal and behavioral conflict with the care and attention it deserves and gives a lower stress threshold to start with to be able to handle that. There can still be abandonment for behavioral reasons but this is very uncommon.

And then there's the structure of child-rearing in Ertakar societies.

The concept of the family is very flexible in most Ertakar. While it varies between societies, on the whole Ertakar aren't strict about things like marital status and structure. With the long life they live, it is considered common to have an average of three long-term partners. Parting ways because one wanted to raise the child and the other didn't isn't uncommon, though communication is often still kept with old partner. Even more than that, some Ertakar societies participate in communal child-rearing. In these communities, if a child's family is indisposed they would be taken in by one of the families already participating in their rearing, so there would be no need for formal adoption as they already had familial connections with others even if not related by blood.

Now after ALL of that, what happens in the case of a child that has no one in a non-communal rearing environment? In many cases, adoption is pretty informal. Probably the most 'documented' of the cultures is the capital the story takes place in. In which case, adoption would be a series of special community handlers investigating the reasons for said abandonment (since it's already so rare) followed by some paperwork for the purposes of tracking the child's residence. Probably also some work to see if any new housing would need to be arranged for those taking in the child. Because of the communal nature of the society, it is extremely uncommon that a child is taken in by complete strangers.

So all this to say that for Ertakar, adoption isn't stigmatized, the legal process is loose if nonexistent in some cases and most of the society sees community as important to the raising of children but the extent of the involvement differs.

And then.

There's the humans.

So I'm operating on the 'current day' of the society, where the comic will take place in. Humans have been on the planet for about a century by now, and some culture has shifted to the Ertakar way of life, but some of them still cling to ideals they brought with them from Earth, such as value placed on monetary wealth which still causes some friction with the Ertakar and of course, each other.

They receive many of the same benefits of the Ertakar: Free housing and free medical care. This does eliminate some of the conditions that might cause one to abandon a child, however it does not eliminate social pressure.

The social pressure to have a child at all is something many Humans struggle with. (Such as the pressure to 'repopulate' on the planet but that's its own can of worms.) And because of the carried over desire for capital, there is still a few smatterings of financial instability to struggle with. So while he child abandonment rate for Humans is higher than that of the Ertakar, it's still not something that requires an institution like an Orphanage to handle.

Also, child abandonment for humans is more loaded than for Ertakar. With the population as small as it is, it's almost impossible to do without the whole community knowing. Despite not being on earth they still want to handle much of it like they would have on Earth in hopes of reaching contact with their home and being able to smooth everything out legally. However, if an Ertakar took the human child in? That can be major social conflict depending on the company kept.

These are all important factors that relate to why it was so difficult for Talon's mother, Tlakanok, to adopt a child. Her home where she came from raised communally, but she was deemed more important to work as a guard and was not permitted to be part of the child rearing group. She left for the capital where she heard the growing population of Humans had some issues with tending to children and she was happy to help there, but then war broke out.


What's Going On With Discord

Feb. 10th, 2026 06:34 pm
armaina: (grace unamused)
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By now, some of you may have heard about the Age Verification changes on Discord. And some of you likely may not have actually read everything about it and have only read the ranted summaries of others. I'm gonna compile this into one place so you can't look away.

First, here is the announcement: https://discord.com/press-releases/discord-launches-teen-by-default-settings-globally

Before I really get into things, I would like to highlight this passage because it'll be important later.
Additionally, Discord will implement its age inference model, a new system that runs in the background to help determine whether an account belongs to an adult, without always requiring users to verify their age. Some users may be asked to use multiple methods if more information is needed to assign an age group.
Naturally! This sucks! But, if you've actually bothered paying attention to what's been going on around you, you would know this outcome with Discord would have been inevitable.

This has been a looming spectre since 2017, back when the Digital Economy Act was passed in the UK. (something they were in the talks about back in 2015.)
https://www.gov.uk/government/news/curbing-access-to-pornographic-websites-for-under-18s
https://wiki.openrightsgroup.org/wiki/Online_age_verification

The UK was the first country to implement such an act and it is the event that caused other governments to weigh the possibility of doing the same. It is imperative that you do not forget this in all future conversation and conflicts with age verification. But getting anyone to pay attention to this (that wasn't the already ever-vigilant community of controversial fiction creators) was like pulling teeth. And then we had the global shutdowns and people were hooked into the Internet more than usual which was great for ignoring the fact that the compliance date for the Digital Economy Act 2017 was quickly approaching. And then other places started to dig into the possibility of gathering personal information for themselves, with depressingly little push-back.

When Australia started testing the waters with it's social media restriction, it was met with a 77% approval!!!

And then there's the numerous states that have implemented varying awful and dangerous age verification laws and they keep cropping up faster than I can keep up with.

Did you know that this Jan the UK is also working on an under-16 year old social media ban like Australia?
https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2026/jan/19/uk-ministers-launch-consultation-into-whether-to-ban-social-media-for-under-16s

Newgrounds managed to figure out a way to satisfy some of the age verification requirements by using the old credit card checks as well as account age specifics. They managed to satisfy the UK this way.

https://www.newgrounds.com/bbs/topic/1549829/1
It is very likely that Discord's ability to use an age inference model now, but not back when the compliance date loomed last year, was because Newgrounds was able to do this. So, bless you Newgrounds, thank you.


And then there's all the stuff that isn't implemented yet but will be soon

Did you know the EU has been working on digital identity wallets?
https://digital-strategy.ec.europa.eu/en/policies/eu-age-verification
Did you that this is happening in Mexico, too?
https://www.reddit.com/r/mexico/comments/1ns29nu/nos_est%C3%A1n_quitando_la_transparencia_y_obligando_a/?tl=en
https://idtechwire.com/mexico-approves-national-biometric-id-system-after-two-year-development/

This isn't going away, it's only getting worse and every major social media service knows this.

This is an issue that is bigger than Discord. They make a lot of money, sure, but not enough to survive with the fines placed on them by the UK, Australia, and the scattered US states by just not complying. Never mind loose their bank, you know, the thing processing their transactions, or their ability to operate as a business at all. This isn't something you can survive by just 'not bending the knee'.

I have been warning people about this for years and I was continually shut down.

Don't believe me? Maybe some insight from someone that has more personal experience with the issue regarding the quickly growing age verification issue:
https://bsky.app/profile/rahaeli.bsky.social/post/3meiroz6nk22w

Transcribed for convenience. )

Now, I'm sure by now you've been around the conversation, you may have seen some people say 'Keep cancelling, Discord is walking this back!' lying to themselves thinking their cancelling their nitro will change this. I'll link the post in question:
https://www.reddit.com/r/discordapp/comments/1r05vkj/discord_will_require_a_face_scan_or_id_for_full/


Transcribed for Convenience )
Here's the thing though, if you actually READ the post, you can see they're not walking back anything at all. The comment is alluding to the section I quoted up at the very beginning, that Discord will implement an age-inference feature. They are, of course, not going to list the specifics of what the criteria is for this but it might be more accessible than you might expect. So for as awful as this all is, I appreciate that Discord is doing what it can to find avenues to verify users' identities without acquiring sensitive information. Time will tell of course.

Oh they also added an addendum to their announcement about this
https://discord.com/press-releases/discord-launches-teen-by-default-settings-globally#age-assurance-clarification

And because I'm sure someone will bring it up, yes, I know about the data breach with Discord. Except, that statement is inaccurate, the data breach was on Zendesk.
https://discord.com/press-releases/update-on-security-incident-involving-third-party-customer-service
https://www.malwarebytes.com/blog/news/2025/10/discord-warns-users-after-data-stolen-in-third-party-breach
https://www.bitdefender.com/en-us/blog/hotforsecurity/discord-users-data-stolen-by-hackers-in-third-party-data-breach

If you actually bothered reading any of the articles about it, you would have known that for yourself. This is a very important distinction, because this means the fault and vulnerability lies with Zendesk, a helpdesk service that hundreds of companies use.

Now, just to be clear, this isn't to shill for Discord. This is about having concise and accurate information for making informed choices. Knowing that the breach with Zendesk, and not Discord servers, is important because it means you need to be cautious of Every Single Instance of Zendesk you interact with. If you jump ship from Discord just to go to another service that also uses Zendesk, you are not any safer than you were before.

So sure, cancel your subscriptions, jump ship, convince yourself that'll save you. But if you do not fight the law itself at the source, it will come for every service you retreat to. We should not resign ourselves to 'only' avoiding the problem. If all you do is cancel monetary support and jump ship, and do absolutely nothing to aid the protest on a legal level, then nothing will be solved and you will run out of hiding spots to retreat to. We desperately need to work on establishing foundations of privacy, together.

That all aside, I believe fostering alternatives to major is vital for a healthy internet, no matter how 'good' the major service is. (I love and Adore dreamwidth, but I still mirror to InsaneJournal.)In that vein, I found this article to be very useful
https://taggart-tech.com/discord-alternatives/
And this thread
https://rpanons.dreamwidth.org/100974.html?thread=288623470#cmt288623470
Be warned, many of these alternatives are lacking major features like Threads (vital for massive RP servers, also I just like them), and some of them don't permit explicit content. There are a lot of self-hosted ones but you have to know HOW to self-host them and have the money for it. You could open yourself up to a lot of vulnerabilities if you don't in which case none of the privacy forward structure will even matter if it's compromised.

I still long for the day the https://ircv3.net/ project finally has all its features implemented and all clients can support them.

Slightly related, I'm always on Trillian. It excels as a DM IM service, but I have always greatly prefer DMs over group chats.

Just, please. Pay attention to your rights, to the changes around you; read all articles in full, and seek context, always.
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Back in August of 2025, we announced a temporary block on account creation for users under the age of 18 from the state of Tennessee, due to the court in Netchoice's challenge to the law (which we're a part of!) refusing to prevent the law from being enforced while the lawsuit plays out. Today, I am sad to announce that we've had to add South Carolina to that list. When creating an account, you will now be asked if you're a resident of Tennessee or South Carolina. If you are, and your birthdate shows you're under 18, you won't be able to create an account.

We're very sorry to have to do this, and especially on such short notice. The reason for it: on Friday, South Carolina governor Henry McMaster signed the South Carolina Age-Appropriate Design Code Act into law, with an effective date of immediately. The law is so incredibly poorly written it took us several days to even figure out what the hell South Carolina wants us to do and whether or not we're covered by it. We're still not entirely 100% sure about the former, but in regards to the latter, we're pretty sure the fact we use Google Analytics on some site pages (for OS/platform/browser capability analysis) means we will be covered by the law. Thankfully, the law does not mandate a specific form of age verification, unlike many of the other state laws we're fighting, so we're likewise pretty sure that just stopping people under 18 from creating an account will be enough to comply without performing intrusive and privacy-invasive third-party age verification. We think. Maybe. (It's a really, really badly written law. I don't know whether they intended to write it in a way that means officers of the company can potentially be sentenced to jail time for violating it, but that's certainly one possible way to read it.)

Netchoice filed their lawsuit against SC over the law as I was working on making this change and writing this news post -- so recently it's not even showing up in RECAP yet for me to link y'all to! -- but here's the complaint as filed in the lawsuit, Netchoice v Wilson. Please note that I didn't even have to write the declaration yet (although I will be): we are cited in the complaint itself with a link to our August news post as evidence of why these laws burden small websites and create legal uncertainty that causes a chilling effect on speech. \o/

In fact, that's the victory: in December, the judge ruled in favor of Netchoice in Netchoice v Murrill, the lawsuit over Louisiana's age-verification law Act 456, finding (once again) that requiring age verification to access social media is unconstitutional. Judge deGravelles' ruling was not simply a preliminary injunction: this was a final, dispositive ruling stating clearly and unambiguously "Louisiana Revised Statutes §§51:1751–1754 violate the First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, as incorporated by the Fourteenth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution", as well as awarding Netchoice their costs and attorney's fees for bringing the lawsuit. We didn't provide a declaration in that one, because Act 456, may it rot in hell, had a total registered user threshold we don't meet. That didn't stop Netchoice's lawyers from pointing out that we were forced to block service to Mississippi and restrict registration in Tennessee (pointing, again, to that news post), and Judge deGravelles found our example so compelling that we are cited twice in his ruling, thus marking the first time we've helped to get one of these laws enjoined or overturned just by existing. I think that's a new career high point for me.

I need to find an afternoon to sit down and write an update for [site community profile] dw_advocacy highlighting everything that's going on (and what stage the lawsuits are in), because folks who know there's Some Shenanigans afoot in their state keep asking us whether we're going to have to put any restrictions on their states. I'll repeat my promise to you all: we will fight every state attempt to impose mandatory age verification and deanonymization on our users as hard as we possibly can, and we will keep actions like this to the clear cases where there's no doubt that we have to take action in order to prevent liability.

In cases like SC, where the law takes immediate effect, or like TN and MS, where the district court declines to issue a temporary injunction or the district court issues a temporary injunction and the appellate court overturns it, we may need to take some steps to limit our potential liability: when that happens, we'll tell you what we're doing as fast as we possibly can. (Sometimes it takes a little while for us to figure out the exact implications of a newly passed law or run the risk assessment on a law that the courts declined to enjoin. Netchoice's lawyers are excellent, but they're Netchoice's lawyers, not ours: we have to figure out our obligations ourselves. I am so very thankful that even though we are poor in money, we are very rich in friends, and we have a wide range of people we can go to for help.)

In cases where Netchoice filed the lawsuit before the law's effective date, there's a pending motion for a preliminary injunction, the court hasn't ruled on the motion yet, and we're specifically named in the motion for preliminary injunction as a Netchoice member the law would apply to, we generally evaluate that the risk is low enough we can wait and see what the judge decides. (Right now, for instance, that's Netchoice v Jones, formerly Netchoice v Miyares, mentioned in our December news post: the judge has not yet ruled on the motion for preliminary injunction.) If the judge grants the injunction, we won't need to do anything, because the state will be prevented from enforcing the law. If the judge doesn't grant the injunction, we'll figure out what we need to do then, and we'll let you know as soon as we know.

I know it's frustrating for people to not know what's going to happen! Believe me, it's just as frustrating for us: you would not believe how much of my time is taken up by tracking all of this. I keep trying to find time to update [site community profile] dw_advocacy so people know the status of all the various lawsuits (and what actions we've taken in response), but every time I think I might have a second, something else happens like this SC law and I have to scramble to figure out what we need to do. We will continue to update [site community profile] dw_news whenever we do have to take an action that restricts any of our users, though, as soon as something happens that may make us have to take an action, and we will give you as much warning as we possibly can. It is absolutely ridiculous that we still have to have this fight, but we're going to keep fighting it for as long as we have to and as hard as we need to.

I look forward to the day we can lift the restrictions on Mississippi, Tennessee, and now South Carolina, and I apologize again to our users (and to the people who temporarily aren't able to become our users) from those states.

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