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Jongeren zijn uitgaan verleerd, zalen op clubavonden blijven halfleeg. ‘Je wordt als programmeur onzeker’ by GianMach in Nederland

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En vergeet de drugs niet die je van te voren moest inslaan

Huurmakelaars vragen potentiële huurders om steeds meer inkomensgegevens by TheBlackestCrow in thenetherlands

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Ik snap alleen niet waarom een verhuurder aan alleen vrouwen zou willen verhuren

En ik snap ook niet waarom ik gedownvote ben voor het stellen van die vraag

I am too addicted to weed, any advice how to take a break? by Nearby-Line9887 in leaves

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And after breaking up with my gf 9 months ago I am completely lonely. I feel like I don’t belong anywhere.

Weed addiction and loneliness go hand in hand. One is not necessarily the starting cause of the other, but once you experience both, they amplify each other and you're stuck in a loop.

Weed addiction makes you content with sitting at home. This will cause loneliness. There is different ways to meet other people, like local sports (soccer, crossfit, etc) or online gaming if you dont mind physical contact. Also finding work and colleagues help alot.

What do you think is the worst consequence of using weed? by Old-Adhesiveness-720 in leaves

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The first two months were literall hell

After 2 months I noticed my life going upwards, from around 6 months I was the happiest ive ever been.

The exact moment that I noticed life improving was when I went to a teambuilding day with work and the sun was setting, we were the whole day on the beach and in the dunes, doing activities. Then when the sun was setting we were eating at a restaurant in the dunes. I saw the sea, the sun going down, I had a great day and I suddenly realised how fucking beautiful the world is. It looked like a damn painting, with how the sun reflected on the sea, the beach, the blue sky. It was also when colors became vivid for me again, I started to smell the world around me (i havent smelled anything in 8 years before that!), I smelled the flowers in the nature, the sea, i felt alive after 10 years of feeling like a zombie. It was also the first day I got my appetite back as I couldnt eat much in those 2 months that I quit.

This is a picture of me that exact day, it was July 2023 i think, i am now 15kg's heavier than that picture, in pure muscle mass only. My goal is to get ripped in april 2025, I also have pictures of myself when I was still smoking weed, there I was 15kg lighter than that picture on the beach. When I smoked I was 55 kg, in that picture I was ~70kg and now I am 85kg

So then when I came home that day I applied for piano lessons, I started cooking for the week, deep cleaning my house and going to the gym, I did not look like a junkie anymore (my face got 'filled' again, I was too thin before). I dont feel comfortable yet sharing those before picture because I look like a TOTALLY different person, like someone who is addicted for years

But the last 12 months is for sure the happiest year i've ever lived. I can finally wear tshirts without being ashamed, I can talk to people, I processed trauma's from when I was a kid

A new study has found that, whether you do it at 35 or 75, quitting cigarette smoking will add years to your life | The findings go to prove that you’re never too old to reap the benefits of stopping smoking. by chrisdh79 in science

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Same here, only until 3 months after quitting i had cravings but now i never have them anymore

In 2008, 50-year-old David Phyall was the last resident in a block of apartments due to be demolished in Bishopstoke, England. He cut off his own head with a chainsaw to highlight the injustice of being forced to move out. by Time-Training-9404 in AllThingsMorbid

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What a retard, beheading yourself for a for some shitty apartments

Gebruik laptop op veel scholen verplicht, lang niet elke ouder kan dat betalen by DutchSapphire in thenetherlands

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Op de middelbare kon mijn moeder geen schoollaptop voor mij betalen (we waren slachtoffer van de kindertoeslagenaffaire, alleen had het geen naam toen, we waren gewoon 'arm').

Ik weet nog dat ik in de eerste zat, 12 jaar oud en naar de rij zat te kijken van mede-leerlingen die hun laptop kunnen ophalen. Op 12 jaar hakt dat wel op je in, om zo aan de zijlijn te staan (Nu zou het mij niks boeien, ik ben immers 24)

Ik moest dan elke keer met mijn schoolpas een laptop lenen bij de 'laptopdokter'.

Dit mocht voor maximaal een halve dag, dus in de ochtend moest ik iets vroeger aanwezig zijn om het te kunnen lenen, want ik mocht niet te laat komen voor de les. Wou ik 'm een hele dag? Moest ik 'm verlengen in de pauze, dit was vrijwel dagelijks zo. Daar ging dan makkelijk een kwartier van mijn halfuur pauze.

Ik vroeg of dit anders kon, maar ik moest niet zo zeuren.

Verder werd de leenlaptops dagelijks ge-wiped. Dus ik moest bijv. MSWord elke dag opnieuw installeren (Ik gebruikte op een gegeven moment Google Docs want ik werd het installeren zat, alleen exporteren naar .docx ging niet altijd goed, waardoor bepaalde stijlen vervielen, heb ik ook een keer een minpunt voor gekregen bij het inleveren van een opdracht).

Ik had mijn hele middelbare school periode het gevoel dat ik afgestraft werd omdat ik arm was opgegroeid, qua lessen, maar ook qua vriendengroep etc.

Tevens kon ik ook nooit geld bijleggen bij vriendengroepen of bij klassenuitjes, het feit dat ik dat niet kon is ook helaas vaak in mijn gezicht teruggegooid en dat mijn moeder maar hard moest gaan werken. Ik kon alleen maar benoemen dat we arm waren thuis, want het woordje 'kindertoeslagenaffaire' bestond immers niet.

Ik ben hierdoor heel lang boos geweest op iedereen om mij heen en begon op mijn 13e zwaar te gaan blowen, ben hieraan verslaafd geweest tot mijn 23e en ben nu 1 jaar en 3 maanden gestopt.

Dus je kan je wel voorstellen dat toen de kindertoeslagenaffaire aan het licht kwam dit heel surrealistisch voor mij voelde, iets waar ik, mijn broertjes en zusjes en mijn moeder al jaren onder lijden kreeg eindelijk een naam! Maar helaas was het kwaad al geschied.

Ik ben structureel afgestraft o.b.v. iets wat niet mijn schuld is.

De titel van deze Reddit post bracht veel herinneringen van deze kut tijd naar boven.

Alleen het gekke is. Ik zou niet willen dat dit anders verliep. Ik ben op jonge leeftijd gaan leren programmeren omdat ik altijd moest toekijken hoe mijn vrienden samen spellen speelden en ik zonder laptop moest gaan toekijken. Ik zag hoe een maat van mij zijn muis indrukte en het wapen begon te schieten, ik begon mij af te vragen hoe ze dat zo maakten dat dat kon, hierdoor programmeer ik nu al bijna 15 jaar lang en heb ik een hele goede baan waardoor ik voorloop op mijn leeftijdsgenoten qua salaris etc. Als ik dit niet had meegemaakt was ik ook niet zo uitgeblinkt met het programmeren. Grappig hoe uit iets negatiefs iets positiefs kan komen.

Ik weet nog hoe ik altijd GameMaker 8 downloadde op de leenlaptops en dan mijn projectjes weer uploadde op Dropbox om later weer verder aan te sleutelen.

Glasscherven brengen geluk.

/rant

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r/trees

For all who’s on the other side of this, can anyone please advise? by OCC76 in leaves

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Well first I want to say that if she is gonna quit she will have to accept that the first few nights are gonna be shit, but see it as an investment as the (mental/physical)health benefits will return double

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I can't. What helped me was 'promising' myself that I could use a bit after my 6 month mark, and then when the 6 month mark hit, I did not do it

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Im gonna paste this here from my older comment of 6 months ago:

My friend who is a psychologist with knowledge of what happens in the brain and body on a chemical level, I asked him if I permanently damaged my brain with all these years of use.

He said I thought too negatively and that I underestimate the brains ability to bounce back, he said I should focus on a very good diet, as the intestines are a really big factor on your brains ability to think, a good diet is very good for your brain (he summed out why etc with different chemicals that gets released but I forgot that as I dont have the knowledge)

And here is another comment of a few months ago, with the same info from the same friend

I smoked daily since 13 and am now 23, with 4 months and 2 weeks fully clean. Your brain can bounce back. My friend who is a psychologist said there are a variety of things to bounce back even better. He told me I was thinking too negatively when I said I was scared I permanently damaged my brain. He said:

  • Make sure to cut out all the garbage from your diet and follow an extremely healthy diet, as your guts make a lot of chemicals for your brain, like serotonins and stuff. This is one of the most important things, if you quit weed and still eat like shit almost nothing improves

  • Keep learning new stuff, in my case I started the piano when I quit, but it can also be math puzzles etc. as long as its something you've never done before (and never done before with weed) and something that is hard for you in the beginning, this is very good for your brain.

  • Physical exercise: Do it like 3-4 times a week, if you never do it, start with 2-3 times a week and build up.- Cut off bad relations; this can be friends that smoke weed, or maybe in your case your mom, (idk you personally so I dont want to interfere in this), but having your mom beg your partner so that her underage kid can take drugs sounds very irresponsible and toxic to me. (Again cutting off your mom can be hard, after all, im still just a stranger on the internet who doesnt know your situation personally)

I did all of this when I quit (and I was a daily smoker, like 5 joints a day) and I shit you not, my brain is in a superhuman state. Everything is so clear, my inner timeline is clear as day, I dont live mentally day-to-day anymore. I learn things very quick now. I never forget midsentence what I was talking about. I gained 10kg in pure muscle and almost have the dream body i want (I was VERY underweight because I skipped meals when I smoked weed). I feel like I became 50% smarter and 80% quicker in thinking, I even got a raise because my work performance improved last 4 months.

Stopping with weed is the first step, but you have to keep stimulating your brain

Plus, say to yourself that your brain is able to bounce back, believing it will also help. If you keep thinking you are damaged forever your brain will act like it. You decide your own reality, just like when you decided to quit weed you altered your reality ;)

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naar de hoeren

ADHD may have been an evolutionary advantage, research suggests by [deleted] in science

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Exactly the same here, from when I was a kid, thinking about projects i would do at home gave me a dopamine rush already, i work now as developer and sometimes I can just type for 6hours straight, go home and go further its insane. The days are very predictable but the work is never the same. Also I encounter much complex stuff and its just fun to puzzle it out.

I can say that i am one of the lucky few to have a job which gives literally dopamine and is my hobby

I cant regulate because im basic by Large-Heart-7664 in leaves

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to the unbearable feeling of wanting to smoke

Oh boy, what does this sound relatable.

For context, I am at 5 months and 4 days. One of the hardest things was that unbearable feeling. It was so worse, that a fridaynight without weed, felt like a wasted friday night. While the opposite is true actually.

How is that so many people can regulate their use

I've never been addicted to alcohol, so that pathway does not exist in my brain. I am able to enjoy a drink once every 3-4 months with some friends, and alot of the time i don't drink while they do.

But with addiction, the path in your brain is deeply engraved, even if you quit for a long time and then decide to do it just once again it re-activates that pathway again. With the alcohol example above, if I wouldve been abusing alcohol for years prior, I was not able to do this. So an former alcoholic would ask, how is it that someone (like me) can regulate his use? Well I have never been addicted to it, never used it as substitute for boredom, it has never been an activity I would be looking forward to do. So that is why I am able to do it just 3 times a year.

But with weed, its a whole different story. I've used weed for a long time, since my teen years. Where the brain is actively developing and more susceptible for the reward feeling. This is what weed did for me. In my brain, the path is engraved too deep that I cannot afford to try to do weed only 3-4 months a year. I would relapse, plus now I don't smoke at all anymore (quit sigarettes years prior), so doing weed would harm my lungs again.

So I can emphasize very good why some people can do it and why some people cant.

is there a way that ppl with this issue can actually enjoy a joint once a month ?

The truth is, that you have to accept this is probably not an option anymore (assuming youve been addicted to weed). The pathway is deeply engraved in your brain and even smoking one years later would activate it. Now that you quit weed ALOT of free time has opened up. Free time that you would normally fill with smoking weed. This will also cause the urge to smoke again because that is the easiest option to come up with to fight boredom.

The solution for this is to do something different, something that you've never done before (and never done before while smoking weed!!!). Preferably something hard, something that takes a while to learn.

For me that was the piano. I got a $50 keyboard from my brother not long after I quit and damn that thing carried me in ways I did not even know. I would search YouTube for piano tutorial versions of songs that meant a lot for me. When I craved weed? I instantly sat behind the keyboard. Currently learning Dream On by Aerosmith. Started piano lessons few months ago, because I am on the point that learning piano gives me the same dopamine release as weed did.

For you it can be the same, or anything else. Try to learn to code, start at scratch.mit.edu. Try a $50 keyboard, you have the funds now you've quit. Start walking or running. Try if you like it.It WILL be hard to start, physically(running) or mentally(coding). But from a few months from now you WILL see progress.

Today marks 4 months by ClickableName in leaves

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The medicine/drug I use is Bupropion. It helps suppress the urge to smoke and is also used in treatment for ADHD. It has something to do with dopamine regulation.

There can be some side-effects like every medicine/drug.

I think I am legally required to say that you have to consult with your own doctor. I cannot recommend this in any way, because I obviously don't know your medical history etc etc, I am just speaking from personal experience here.

I got it prescribed because I went to the general practitioner, explained that I had an addiction that was starting to ruin my life last few years, so he forwarded me to an agency that helps with addictions. My health insurance covered it. The psychologist there prescribed it to me after a few sessions.

It did wonders, the first week I sat next to a friend who was smoking and I did not have a single urge at all. Normally I would have an internal battle and 90% of the time I would cave in. I can smell really good now, and noticed the last 1.5 months that my cardio and lung function improved. My emotions are fully stable, my state of mind is really different, I look healthy now, because I actually eat good. If you knew me 4 months prior and would see me now you would see a totally different person.

I started my own company, picked up playing the piano (well... keyboard actually, but I want a piano), got more mass in muscle, relationship goes very good, my performance on my regular job improved drastically and short-term memory improved.

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First of all, for everyone its different. Not to one-up you, not at all, but I smoked daily since 15 years old and quit cold turkey 4 months ago now (at 23 years old) so thats 8 years of daily use under my belt.

That being said I did not experience this at all and you could argue i absolutely decimated my brain. I can't fill this in for you, because I am not you, but I think you are hard on yourself. It might be (quitting with) weed still, but maybe extra factors, do you experience stress from other things? Like school? Or work? Relationships? I think weed might have to do with it + other factors. Do you have ADHD without meds? It's important to consider all those other factors too.

Again it might be weed alone as its different for everyone, but I wanted to say that I used ALOT and didn't experienced this when I quit, so maybe that helps to know. I did experience it while I was using weed tho.

And the first month of quitting is always very hectic, I would say, give it another month or two. It should get better over time.

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EDIT to add:
My friend who is a psychologist with knowledge of what happens in the brain and body on a chemical level, I asked him if I permanently damaged my brain with all these years of use.

He said I thought too negatively and that I underestimate the brains ability to bounce back, he said I should focus on a very good diet, as the intestines are a really big factor on your brains ability to think, a good diet is very good for your brain (he summed out why etc with different chemicals that gets released but I forgot that as I dont have the knowledge)

Study has found that teens who use cannabis recreationally are two to four times as likely to develop psychiatric disorders, such as depression and suicidality, than teens who don’t use cannabis at all by giuliomagnifico in science

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Yes that is true, i just dont know why i was downvoted, I am citing my psychologist who knows it better than the average redditor

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But what if someone knows my wallet/address? Can't they literally track everything I bought?

Dude wants his money back 💰. by [deleted] in CrazyFuckingVideos

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Ye right, if i order something and they fuck it up everytime, its my fault ofc

I hate to break it to you, but that standard reddit trope doesnt work this time for you

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I see alot on reddit that if you turn 30 you magically cant eat anything anymore, but I am honestly under the impression that its just an excuse to be a lazy fat fuck

Mod responds to racists in comments by being racist themself by LCDRformat in redditmoment

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What no pussy does to a mf. They'll try anything!

Why is lung cancer so much more prevalent in the uk than in China despite the higher pollution and rates of smoking in China? by rw258906 in askscience

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No that is what they keep secret you dumdum