News-Unworthy

Feb. 20th, 2026 09:44 pm
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Guess I won't be reading BBC news any more, as they appear to have erected a paywall in the very recent past. It had long been too US-centric, anyway. I'll read more Al Jazeera to get actual WORLD news.

Wearing Thin

Feb. 20th, 2026 08:04 pm
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It's a "fizzy sweet wine in a 16 oz tumbler (at least it's not straight from the bottle) and cozy Christmas lights (because my life is so stupid the tree's still up)" kind of evening.

These days I'm starting my work weeks relatively OK, but by Fridays I Hate Everything. Talked to my old boss today, who's going to come up for a week to help intro-train the new PM starting in a couple of weeks, plus get some additional training to the newer one (about a year into the title, but only recently really stepped up in responsibility). Someone outside my management chain wanting to lecture me on how I need to focus more on the important than the urgent and that I need to do less and then immediately responding to "here's a quick thing your team could help me save time and labor in the near term" with "let's define all the requirements for the full-blown project that little thing is a part of and which you didn't ask for help with" is NOT helping. I put off that meeting for when my entire head wasn't on fire because I knew it was going to be exactly what it ended up being, and as expected it was neither urgent, nor important.

Finally got Mom's phone number transferred to the new place today, a month after I'd asked. Next will be cancelling the phone service off the cable bill, getting an alternate email set up and redirecting the important things to a new one, and then canceling the cable modem too. Still need to find the time to get to the post office during counter hours to change her address (have to show off POA paperwork)...maybe tomorrow morning. Also need to drop off her taxes with her tax guy sometime on the way to work. And call her long term care insurance company to make sure they actually got the last surprise set of eligibility evaluation forms back from the doctor's office (so many fucking hoops).

Also in the finally category, Mom was downright pleasant to hang out with last Saturday, for the first time since we moved her there a month earlier. She kept admiring the view and asking me how I found the place, and agreed that it kind of has the same vibe as her house, and she finally let/helped me hang some more pictures. She still won't go eat in the dining room, or even go walk the halls for some exercise and to see what's what, but baby steps. I'm planning to shift her to the on-site meds provider when we go see her doctor in a couple of weeks (wanted to use up existing already-purchased supplies first), and I hope that might help shift her to an earlier clock and make her more likely to go down for meals.

Enjoyed the federal holiday off this past Monday, though after breakfast out with my sweetie before his work, it was mostly a catch-up day for errands and clearing snow from Mom's house's driveway while picking up her mail. Don't think I'll have another day off for a while yet, and definitely nothing until the end of May where the backlogged work penalty won't be higher for the privilege. We'd been talking about going to Houston and to see Josh's family over spring break, but it's invoicing week, and I just mentally and emotionally can't right now, especially as I'd have to be working, and the in-laws' guest bed is literally painful to sleep on. They may still go, esp as Lillian's last great grandmother recently entered hospice (though I guess she technically still has a living step-step great grandmother).

In short, I'm tired, my to-do list is 3 miles long and most every completed item spawns two new ones, and it's going to remain bad on a personal and professional level for a while longer yet, completely aside from the whole "world descending into pedophiliac fascism" thing. Also, all my lovely snow melted this week, though it's not like I've had any time to go play in it. It is a nice little break from the 3 weeks of constant snow and a stretch of super cold we had starting on mom's moving day, though. All the local roads, even the well-traveled ones, were inch-thick packed snow for a couple of weeks solid. (As a child, I taught myself to ice-skate on that shit.)
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There was a Kura Sushi near me in Yokohama, so I tried going. And lo, not only did it deliver orders do you, but there were plates circulating to be taken! Almost nothing on the plates... because it was 16:30, with like 3 people in the store, so I guess they weren't going to waste food putting it out. But there were some tuna salad and shrimp mayo rolls still on the belt. (Even if I liked them, I would not have taken those particular items after unknown circulation time.) So I ordered everything anyway. But in theory.

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Feb 14: Yokohama and Chinatown

Feb. 17th, 2026 10:20 pm
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Album. Long day. Uphill outh of me to Yamate, train up to Kannai, walking south through a park and then Chinatown. Read more... )

I walked up and down through much of Chinatown, had a meat bun, various siu mai, a fried chicken cutlet or "dekatsu". None of the food blew me away, honestly. Oh right, sat down at a place with outdoor seating, ordered various dumplings; the soup dumplings were good.

The big lie of rotisserie chicken

Feb. 15th, 2026 02:23 pm
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(Disclaimer: title is an exaggeration)

It's commonly said, particularly on Bluesky right now, that US supermarket rotisserie whole chicken is as cheap or cheaper than buying a whole raw chicken, with many people wondering how that's possible. A common reason suggested is "loss leader". More cynically, one might suspect of chickens about to expire, thus providing basically free input. (There's an independent grocer-deli in Montreal that I suspect did exactly this: their cooked drumsticks that I bought had a suspicious whiff to them.)

But why do people believe cooked chicken is cheaper than raw? Apparently because they compare the cost of cooked and raw chickens... as if all chickens were the same size. Or as if stores drew randomly from the chicken supply to cook. But really, given that raw chicken is sold by weight, and cooked chickens are sold by chicken, why wouldn't a store pull the smallest chickens to cook and sell at a markup?

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As for the "Big Lie" in the title, that's not the stores lying, per se. They offer you a chicken, and they sell you a chicken. But the belief circulating that it's comparable to a chicken you'd buy to cook on your own? That's generally a falsehood, if not a lie.

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In my current procrastination regarding actually leaving Japan, I found an attractive place nearby: the upper level of a house, 100 square meters! Japanese and Western style rooms, choices of futon and beds! Figured I had to try it. Was only available for a week. A bit pricey, but pretty cheap for the space -- not that I need all that space, but after an accumulated month in a 20 m2 place, I looked forward to stretching out.

You pay in another way, though: where my first places had been a 15 minute walk from the main station, then a 5-8 minute walk, this was a 7 minute walk to a minor station, two stops away from Fujisawa, on a line with 14 minute headways. (The Enoden line is mostly single tracked, so probably not much choice there.)

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Feb 4, Fuji and Enoshima

Feb. 14th, 2026 09:46 pm
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Guess I'm doing these out of order... Album

Took the train to Katase-Enoshima, to test my post-Odawara hypothesis of "see snow on Fuji if you get out early enough." Success!

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(Yeah, so this happened before my Fuji-Ofuna entry, oops.)

After that I decided to walk to Enoshima island for the second time and see if I'd missed stuff. (Yes.) Read more... )

Feb 9, good Fuji photos and Ofuna

Feb. 14th, 2026 09:28 pm
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Album

At last, a really good view of Mount Fuji:

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It really does help to get up earlier in the day. View taken from the rooftop terrace of Shounan-Enoshima Monorail station.

Later photo, taken from the monorail station, which I like for the mountain-over-plain feeling:

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small Japan entries

Feb. 14th, 2026 09:03 pm
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Quick entries: Read more... )

Ertakar Adoption

Feb. 12th, 2026 02:58 pm
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So there's this worldbuilding prompt thing on Bluesky now and it posed this question
https://bsky.app/profile/oc-world-asks.myatproto.social/post/3meniu5sckk2t

Is adoption a concept in your constructed world's civilization(s)? Is it a legal process? Is it stigmatized? Do the peoples in your civilization(s) see child rearing as a community project, or more private? Does trans-lineage adoption exist? How about trans-species adoption?

I made a small response on the platform but I hate truncating my speech and making annoying long threads so I am going to address this question with the depth id deserves, here.

First, I think we need to address the issue of what causes a child to require being adopted in the first place. At its most vague it is because the child is abandoned either voluntarily or involuntarily. From there we have to interrogate those factors.

What would cause a child to be abandoned voluntarily?

  • The child is unwanted, for reasons that can include:
    • The pregnancy itself was unwanted and could not be prevented before birth.
    • The child is behavioraly difficult to care for.
    • The existence of the child causes social conflict.
  • The family unable to care for the child.
    • Housing is insufficient for another child.
    • They are unable to keep the whole family fed
    • Health is too expensive to keep up with

What would cause a child to be abandoned involuntarily?

  • The parents are either dead or missing.
  • The parents were deemed unfit and the child was removed.


I went through all the effort to itemize these caveats because as I start to explain the specifics of Ertakar social structure and world view, you'll have a better understanding of what I mean when I say, abandoned children are extremely uncommon in Ertakar society.

First is the matter of pregnancy itself. Contraceptives and other birth control is something that is freely available, easy to access, and socially accepted as normal and important. This means the chances of there being 'unwanted' children by way of undesired pregnancy is exceedingly rare. Related to this, medical assistance is very easy to access and not monetized. This means any complications with the pregnancy, disability, health, and so on are taken care of as needed without one's income status being a factor at all.

After that, is housing. Territories exist, so there is 'ownership' in that, but the idea that individuals monetarily own land is absurd to them across all cultures. Because of this social perception, the very concept of providing some currency or exchange just to live in a place is absurd. Pay for the labor of the home to live in, sure, but to remain there? Of course not. This means the fear of loosing housing is nonexistent, if you have a home, its yours. And especially in the case of the capital my story will take place in, housing is open and divvied out to anyone that asks. You put in requests for what you need and move as much or as little as you need. This is important for matters of disability, where residents are provided the home that meets their needs, so any family with a child that has certain disabilities they can be provided housing that accommodates them and thus ease the strain on the family as a whole. Other communities of Ertakar are of similar minds to provide as a community even if they do it in different ways with different expectations.

Finally, is food. Ertkar are active hunters and facultative carnivores. This means their diet even in their 'modern' day consists of prey they hunt themselves. This means there is no 'food industry' which mean food isn't something you pay for so the factor of hunger is only caused by environmental factors, not artificially constructed ones. If you can hunt you can eat, and if you can't hunt there is community there to help you hunt or do it for you.

All these factors make the effort of childrearing far less stressful, which gives families more means to address any interpersonal and behavioral conflict with the care and attention it deserves and gives a lower stress threshold to start with to be able to handle that. There can still be abandonment for behavioral reasons but this is very uncommon.

And then there's the structure of child-rearing in Ertakar societies.

The concept of the family is very flexible in most Ertakar. While it varies between societies, on the whole Ertakar aren't strict about things like marital status and structure. With the long life they live, it is considered common to have an average of three long-term partners. Parting ways because one wanted to raise the child and the other didn't isn't uncommon, though communication is often still kept with old partner. Even more than that, some Ertakar societies participate in communal child-rearing. In these communities, if a child's family is indisposed they would be taken in by one of the families already participating in their rearing, so there would be no need for formal adoption as they already had familial connections with others even if not related by blood.

Now after ALL of that, what happens in the case of a child that has no one in a non-communal rearing environment? In many cases, adoption is pretty informal. Probably the most 'documented' of the cultures is the capital the story takes place in. In which case, adoption would be a series of special community handlers investigating the reasons for said abandonment (since it's already so rare) followed by some paperwork for the purposes of tracking the child's residence. Probably also some work to see if any new housing would need to be arranged for those taking in the child. Because of the communal nature of the society, it is extremely uncommon that a child is taken in by complete strangers.

So all this to say that for Ertakar, adoption isn't stigmatized, the legal process is loose if nonexistent in some cases and most of the society sees community as important to the raising of children but the extent of the involvement differs.

And then.

There's the humans.

So I'm operating on the 'current day' of the society, where the comic will take place in. Humans have been on the planet for about a century by now, and some culture has shifted to the Ertakar way of life, but some of them still cling to ideals they brought with them from Earth, such as value placed on monetary wealth which still causes some friction with the Ertakar and of course, each other.

They receive many of the same benefits of the Ertakar: Free housing and free medical care. This does eliminate some of the conditions that might cause one to abandon a child, however it does not eliminate social pressure.

The social pressure to have a child at all is something many Humans struggle with. (Such as the pressure to 'repopulate' on the planet but that's its own can of worms.) And because of the carried over desire for capital, there is still a few smatterings of financial instability to struggle with. So while he child abandonment rate for Humans is higher than that of the Ertakar, it's still not something that requires an institution like an Orphanage to handle.

Also, child abandonment for humans is more loaded than for Ertakar. With the population as small as it is, it's almost impossible to do without the whole community knowing. Despite not being on earth they still want to handle much of it like they would have on Earth in hopes of reaching contact with their home and being able to smooth everything out legally. However, if an Ertakar took the human child in? That can be major social conflict depending on the company kept.

These are all important factors that relate to why it was so difficult for Talon's mother, Tlakanok, to adopt a child. Her home where she came from raised communally, but she was deemed more important to work as a guard and was not permitted to be part of the child rearing group. She left for the capital where she heard the growing population of Humans had some issues with tending to children and she was happy to help there, but then war broke out.


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