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randominityReading [this wank] about liberal white guilt, and jat_sapphire makes this point:
I really do sympathize with how hard it is to be told that you're secretly doing something you abhor and would never intentionally do. But, you know, in my experience people who really are trying not to be racist, even when they're upset about being splashed with the same crazy-paint as the dyed-in-the-wool, won't-hire-them-affirmative-action-whores, what's-all-the-fuss-about-slavery's-over, sheesh-why-do-they-hafta-talk-so-lazy people ...cut people of color a BREAK for not being psychic enough to instantly read your trying-hard credentials through your fucking stupid questions.
My own favorite is "Can I touch your hair?" Makes me want to say, "Can I get a skin-dyejob or something so I don't have to be in the same race with anyone who thinks other people are their flipping STUFFED ANIMALS?"
that has me bobbing my head in agreement.
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And then... then geekmagirl says this:
You know, I've found that if you just smack their hands and say "Sit!", they'll never, ever do that again. It's much easier than the lecture about how this is my hair, and not your hair, and we're both strangers to each other, and they're an idiot.
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and I am broken. I cannot laugh out loud, for I am at work. So I purse my lips and and tears of hilarity leak out of my eyes. Ow. Oh, ow.
I really do sympathize with how hard it is to be told that you're secretly doing something you abhor and would never intentionally do. But, you know, in my experience people who really are trying not to be racist, even when they're upset about being splashed with the same crazy-paint as the dyed-in-the-wool, won't-hire-them-affirmative-action-whores, what's-all-the-fuss-about-slavery's-over, sheesh-why-do-they-hafta-talk-so-lazy people ...cut people of color a BREAK for not being psychic enough to instantly read your trying-hard credentials through your fucking stupid questions.
My own favorite is "Can I touch your hair?" Makes me want to say, "Can I get a skin-dyejob or something so I don't have to be in the same race with anyone who thinks other people are their flipping STUFFED ANIMALS?"
that has me bobbing my head in agreement.
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And then... then geekmagirl says this:
You know, I've found that if you just smack their hands and say "Sit!", they'll never, ever do that again. It's much easier than the lecture about how this is my hair, and not your hair, and we're both strangers to each other, and they're an idiot.
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and I am broken. I cannot laugh out loud, for I am at work. So I purse my lips and and tears of hilarity leak out of my eyes. Ow. Oh, ow.
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Date: 2005-06-09 05:30 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-09 11:18 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-10 12:17 am (UTC)Actually, I'm more like a lemming. A friend would see something in one of those communities then post about it, usually with a comment like, "Girl you have got to see this." And me like a fool go tripping over there like a looky loo at a trainwreck. I've been sucked in once or twice but I'm usally just in awe of the weirdness.
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Date: 2005-06-09 05:59 pm (UTC)the way some people think (or fail to) never ceases to amaze. it'd almost be funny, except it's so damn sad. it makes me wonder just how long real change will take. when you consider that generally attitudes now are improved over 50 years ago, I begin to fear I won't live to see it.
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Date: 2005-06-09 07:38 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-09 10:25 pm (UTC)*hides face and scurries off in embarrassment*
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Date: 2005-06-09 11:22 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-09 11:20 pm (UTC)*facepalm* LOL
And the zinger that inevitably follows the "can I touch your hair?" question? Is when they do touch it and say "oh, it's so soft!" The implication being what, now? Yeah, bite me.
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Date: 2005-06-09 06:06 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-09 11:22 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-10 03:11 pm (UTC)pssst go friend aralinde I can't believe you do not know her already!
>_>
Date: 2005-06-10 06:07 pm (UTC)*hides lack of fannish awareness behind back*
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Date: 2005-06-11 12:07 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-11 12:11 pm (UTC)No really, you two are going to like each other, I'm sure of it. If nothing else you can talk about hair...
;)
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Date: 2005-06-11 12:50 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-11 12:53 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-11 01:00 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-11 01:03 pm (UTC)The most beautiful thing just occured to me. If I'm staying with my parents until near July, I can special order a bra and have it shipped to their place!
Damn boobs that require special ordering. Bitches!
On the other hand, my hair is under control lately.
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Date: 2005-06-11 01:12 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-11 01:20 pm (UTC)heh.
if my dad does not knock on my door in like three minutes i am seriously going to be pissed! i am supposed to leave for an art fair at 3:30 and he knows it omg!
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Date: 2005-06-09 07:38 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-09 10:25 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-10 02:35 am (UTC)Hell, I may have to start doing that myself. (Yes, my hair is short-cropped and fuzzy. No, you may not touch it, unless you are either a friend or a small child. And you definitely can't touch without asking first!)
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Date: 2005-06-10 06:08 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-06-11 12:06 pm (UTC)*is geekmagirl*
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Date: 2005-06-11 03:35 pm (UTC)