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Jan. 2nd, 2007 05:19 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
schemingreaderThat was a good post title, hmm?
I just went to the most recent love meme, and made some nice posts. Then I stopped.
I don't like love memes. They make me uncomfortable. I feel like I should post comments and tell people that I like them and like their work, because otherwise they will feel like crap or maybe think I don't like them. But I post positive comments on people's work all the time.
It also feels like a great opportunity for me to feel like crap because of all the people I've admired who just act like they think I'm weird. (Yeah, it's fandom, of course I'm weird. We're all weird. Come on already.)
So okay--I LIKE YOU. That's why I read your journal compulsively and comment on your work and tell you that you are a nice person. But I'm not going back to the love meme!
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rexluscus pointed out--you could spend HOURS on one of those memes. I want to spend that time doing paid work, finishing the fic I started writing for hill_ on the train this morning, and trying to prevent my three year old from putting shiny tape on all the furniture.
Okay maybe that last one is a little pointless.
I just went to the most recent love meme, and made some nice posts. Then I stopped.
I don't like love memes. They make me uncomfortable. I feel like I should post comments and tell people that I like them and like their work, because otherwise they will feel like crap or maybe think I don't like them. But I post positive comments on people's work all the time.
It also feels like a great opportunity for me to feel like crap because of all the people I've admired who just act like they think I'm weird. (Yeah, it's fandom, of course I'm weird. We're all weird. Come on already.)
So okay--I LIKE YOU. That's why I read your journal compulsively and comment on your work and tell you that you are a nice person. But I'm not going back to the love meme!
rexluscus pointed out--you could spend HOURS on one of those memes. I want to spend that time doing paid work, finishing the fic I started writing for hill_ on the train this morning, and trying to prevent my three year old from putting shiny tape on all the furniture. Okay maybe that last one is a little pointless.
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Date: 2007-01-02 10:51 pm (UTC)I very, very rarely reply to those love-meme things. Why bother? is my general feeling. I think my friends are secure enough in my feelings that they won't be crushed if I don't leave a comment; the authors I admire get my feedback on things they write, which is more useful and meaningful; and if anyone's ego is hanging on being found in the middle of page 8 or 14, well, I feel sorry for them!
* is merciless *
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:00 am (UTC)(Eeeee! She's merciless! Soooo cooool! etc.)
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Date: 2007-01-02 10:58 pm (UTC)And, well, frankly trying to find anyone I might know in those memes is too difficult to bother with. By the time I see a name I recognize I'm probably going to be cranky about it all.
Besides... there's always the point that someone whose name isn't put in for love is going to feel pretty unloved, right? Or who doesn't get many comments? Which negates the whole purpose.
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Date: 2007-01-02 11:59 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-01-03 01:31 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-01-02 11:04 pm (UTC)I mean, you're totally NOT wei...
...well, maybe a little, but in the best possible way!
*love memes you in the privacy of your own LJ*
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Date: 2007-01-02 11:54 pm (UTC)Yup. *Love memes you back.*
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Date: 2007-01-02 11:14 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-01-02 11:55 pm (UTC)I like you, by the way. I think your writing rocks and you are a damn good fan!
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:14 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-01-02 11:27 pm (UTC)But why do people's comments make you think that they think you're wierd? I'm puzzled.
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Date: 2007-01-02 11:57 pm (UTC)It's not so much people's comments making me think they think I'm weird. It's commenting on other people's work repeatedly and otherwise trying to make friends with them and feeling like I've been put on ignore. Though I'm not sure that i really feel that way, or whether it's just that the whole love meme schtick is giving me flashbacks to grade school.
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Date: 2007-01-02 11:31 pm (UTC)And yes, I'm all about the commenting on people's journals instead. That said, I need to make my fandom new years resolution "I shall comment on fic I like, instead of thinking, oh I'll comment later." Because I never comment later and then I forget and then I worry that people think I don't like their fic. Gah.
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Date: 2007-01-02 11:58 pm (UTC)(I don't get bored of reading people saying nice things to each other though. I could listen to people say nice things to each other in succession for hours!)
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:01 am (UTC)I never understood this thing with either love or hate memes. Hate memes are plain stupid. And love memes always seem to me like a giant competition of who is the most popular. If I care about someone, I can always tell them. I need no meme. So if I never sign people's name in one of those memes, it's nothing against them. I simply don't want to waste my time searching for names and I tend to ignore the road signs in journals as well.
I never really dared to voice that opinion because love memes seem to be such a fandom taboo and I was afraid of hurting people's feelings. So in my eyes, you made a very brave and daring post! *bows* And now I'm telling *you* that I love you for being courageous and nice! *gives you a big hug*
&hearts and catsmooches to you, darling!
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:03 am (UTC)How are you feeling? i saw that you got the flu. I hope it's over, or at least almost over, now. Happy New Year!
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:13 am (UTC)It was just this impression I got, because everybody seemed to participate and participating seemed unquestioned. So I always wondered in silence about the attraction of those memes. Aside from that, I wasn't sure if it was a cultural phenomenon or a fandom thing.
About the flu: I have moved from "only coughing" to "coughing and sneezing". Ergh!
Apart from that, I wrote my own private declaration of love for my f-list in 2006, and I will hopefully post it tomorrow. :-) Because spreading the love is better than spreading the flu!
And a Happy New Year to you as well! :-)
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:02 am (UTC)Hee! I try very hard not to do memes generally because I'm so slow at writing fic, and that's really what we all want from me anyway, right? *sigh*
But you're absolutely right about this one. Don't you all know I like you? *smile* I do. M.
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:04 am (UTC)I like you, specifically, very much.
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:10 am (UTC)Ah, see, LJ is like a love meme every day. This is why we like it so much. Me, too. *smooch* M.
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Date: 2007-01-03 04:56 am (UTC)Oh, was I supposed to take it off?
*innocent face*
*glee*
Stasia
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Date: 2007-01-03 05:45 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-01-03 05:24 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2007-01-03 06:54 am (UTC)But I didn't mean putting my own name on them, I just meant not looking because they're always insanely long and not commenting even though I see people I like because of the obligation issue.
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Date: 2007-01-03 05:39 am (UTC)(but, like, you seem to think that fandom is collectively older than 12?)
shiny tapes, woot!
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Date: 2007-01-03 05:44 am (UTC)I have to write a journal entry about what I really did this evening!
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Date: 2007-01-03 05:50 am (UTC)heh, yes, you have to!
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Date: 2007-01-03 10:00 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-01-03 12:16 pm (UTC)If you are on the LOVE MEME PAGE, forgive me for not going to look!
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Date: 2007-01-03 10:12 am (UTC)I'd rather spend my time talking to people on their journals, you know? Not leaving comments on some enormous meme.
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Date: 2007-01-03 12:14 pm (UTC)(*gives you shy but emphatic virtual smooch*)
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Date: 2007-01-03 03:52 pm (UTC)It's so easy to get sucked in, but it does start to feel icky - like a popularity contest. 'Oooh, look how many bazillion people commented under So-and-so's name!' And if you've never been the popular girl, you feel bad that no one's put your name up there or only two people have commented or whatever. It starts to feel mean and ugly.
Heh. I guess my feelings aren't so mixed after all. I'll just have to remember that next time and resist venturing over.