Showing posts with label Travels. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Travels. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 05, 2018

The Social Animal

Music: Let It Go by James Bay

Last weekend i decided to go to Tokyo, solo of course, it was a last minute decision. Because there was free wifi all over the city and subway, I was pretty much updating live my trip on IG story. I started thinking why I do it though. As always, I like to think back about my actions.. I’ve developed a certain habit of self-evaluating myself, the things I do and say, the way my thoughts form and evolve in both the most interesting and mundane situations happening around me. Lets just say my level of consciousness about myself is quite well developed. I find that it helps me to be a better person as well as understand myself better, which always give me an opportunity to improve myself if I find my actions wanting. Anyway, back to my live updates.. I saw two possible main reasons.. firstly is the obvious fact that I could do it coz of the free wifi. Secondly, i think its because of the precise facr that I was traveling solo (and it becomes more empahsized because people weren’t as friendly in a metropolitan like Tokyo, locals and foreigners alike). Because I am a human being that do need to socialize every now and then, it probably felt like the only way I could socialize would be through IG, albeit somewhat a one way interaction. I could actually come to this conclusion because, if I had travelled with another person, I wouldn’t have updated so much (this I know through experience of course). So whats the point of this observation though? I learn that its not something I particularly enjoy that much, live updating that is, but its not like I dont like it either. I guess part of me just wanted to share my experience. And then one might ask, why do you go solo travel then if you say u need to share, or need human connection for that matter. Well solo travel is wonderful in its own way, which I’m not gonna go into now. I guess it would have been different if I traveled to a friendlier place, and I’m forced to make my own human connections with the strangers around. But because I had the option of making those connections through IG (again coz of the free wifi everywhere), I unconsciously chose to do that instead. Why I dont particularly enjoy it much is because it does distract me from my surroundings. Social media does that really. And internet connectivity. And yet one of the underlying reasons I go travel is to detach myself and just be in the moment, absorb my new experiences and surroundings, a stimulation of the mind in a different kind of way (diff coz the  mind is also stimulated when doing work and solving problems at work).

Oh and another new thing I learned about myself, more like how I have evolved.. cityscapes is really not my thing anymore. I need more nature. I actually planned to hike nearby Mt Fuji but alas it rained a lot  the weekend I was there, hence I had to forgo my hiking plans. Oh well.. lets just say I wont be going to Tokyo for a while, maybe the entry point to somewhere else but thats it.

P/s: I’m currently reading a book titled The Social Animal by David Brooks. Lol. 

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Mild post-earthquake trauma?

Music: If It Makes You Happy by Sheryl Crow

Last Sunday, 29 July 2018, at 6.57am, my new group of hiker friends (from Malaysia) and I were in Senaru Village in Lombok, all ready and prepared to climb Rinjani (was just waiting to have breakfast before we started the hike) when a 6.4 magnitude earthquake happened. Long story short, the climb was cancelled. I will write a longer post and be as detailed as I can on the whole experience later.

But what I wanna talk about right now, with the 20 mins I have before office hours ends, is about what I am currently feeling right now.

Truth be told, I was very fine and calm on Sunday and Monday (yesterday we got home). Just that when I was on the plane home, I looked at a group picture we took during the wait for an anticipated big earthquake (after the first one), and I imagined all of us in the picture dead. Morbid, i know. But I couldn't help it. A tear or two rolled down. Thank god my friends were sleeping.

Today I came to work. Some people asked me questions and stuff. These people came to me and asked. Not once I started the topic or looked for anyone to talk to. Even ran away from big groups. Even CTO was here but I didn't go to greet him. Plus he was talking to someone I wanted to avoid. But anyway, these people who talked to me, I know they don't truly realize how bad the situation I was in, how terrible an experience it was, not that I expect them to. Granted I have also been acting normally like nothing happened, like I just came back from another holiday, explained and recounted what happened like it was just another event thats not significant. Other climbers on the mountain and at Sembalun were affected worst than we were at Senaru, not in any saying what I went through was the worst. It could have been worst, but we were the lucky ones to be spared. Its weird to see everyone being normal going about their lives, yet I have just had this experience that may or may not be traumatic, I don't know how to diagnose myself. My boss was the only person who asked whether I am ok, psychologically. I said I am, of course. I pretty sure I'm okay. But still I have these things I am feeling that I can't quite relay to anyone. I wish someone could relate to my experience. Or reach out to me. I feel rather alone.

I guess this is probably something like returning soldiers from a war zone or something.. nobody can understand them except those who went through the exact same things as they did. I've read a lot that its never a good thing to say to this to someone who's going through rough times, "I understand what you're going through", especially when you're trying to comfort that person. Coz the truth of the matter is, nobody understands what another person is going through. So the best thing to do is just to sit and listen.

Time's up. Can't wait to get home. 

Wednesday, June 13, 2018

Travel Mania

Music: Where Were You in the Morning by Shawn Mendes

Where do I even start. Haha. Ok this will be just a short entry as I can't wait to start to do some work today (lolwuttttttt). Since last I wrote, briefly mentioned I went to Melbourne, that was during Raya Haji last year.. and then I went all crazy..

East Java & Bali (Dec)
Nepal (Dec)
Jakarta (Feb)
Manila (Feb)
Bangkok (April)
Korea (May)
Adelaide (May)

No plans yet after this. But I don't trust myself to stay put hahaha. This girl is beyond help. 

Friday, September 15, 2017

Iran Chronicles, Part 4

Note: These Iran Chronicles are actually copied from a series of emails to my friend. But even then I only managed to write until day 4 of the trip, in total i was in Iran for 10 days. I'm too lazy to continue where I've left off, its been almost 2 years. So I guess this will be an incomplete series of my entries on Iran. oh well. Something is better than nothing.

Abyaneh & Esfahan

Day 4 continued

Next it was about 2.5 hours drive to Abyaneh village.. The reason we had to hire a driver and car was because this place was out of the way, while making our way to Esfahan. I slept all the way during the drive. It was super cold in Abyaneh, and the place was literally empty, either that or most of the villagers are hiding inside their houses, hehe.

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Then it was another 2 hours drive to Esfahan. Otw from Abyaneh to Esfahan, we pass through the Natanz area. In case you're not familiar with Iran's nuclear program, Natanz is where their uranium enrichment facility is located at. I've heard stories of tourists being caught or deported right away from Iran when they were caught taking pictures from the bus or the car they were travelling in while passing through this area. I was really looking forward to having a look at the nuclear facility actually, but i ended up sleeping the whole way again, so missed totally missed it. haha. oh well. Sometime during the drive from Kashan to Abyaneh to Esfahan, i was in contact with my host in Esfahan, I gave her number to our driver and vice versa, so they could contact each other since i didnt have a local sim card. By the time we reached Esfahan, we waited somewhere near the bus stop for Mohamad our host to pick us up.

We paid our driver, went to Mohamad's car and we drove around Esfahan. Mohamad is currently doing his Masters in English literature, and the week we were there was his finals, so he was supposed to be studying. hahahahha. but he was kind enough to host us. He told us that when his girlfriend Somy (the original host that I requested to surf with) asked whether he could host us instead because she had guests in her house, he was very excited because we were Malaysians, and instantly agreed. He's a funny guy really, kept saying OMG all the time. Traffic was crazy that night, as always according to Mohamad, what more it was rush hour after working hours.

We decided to drive around Esfahan, while waiting for Somy to finish work at 6pm. By the time we picked her up, we were famished. We havent had a proper meal since morning, only munching on dried apples slices we bought in Abyaneh and a box of assorted nuts (walnuts, pistachio, berries, peanuts) given to us by Hamoon. Infact, our driver actually told Mohamad when he was 'handing us over' that we were very hungry. ahahahha. Mohamad and Somy brought us to the Armenian Quarter, to one of his favorite places to eat roast chicken. It was literally one of the most delicious roasted chicken ive ever tasted. Either that or because we were too hungry to think. It was also freaking cold, and then we found out why. Esfahan is located about 1600m asl! no wonder it was freezin, i couldnt even function properly, it was subzero. initially we planned to walk around the quarter after dinner, then we decided it was too cold to even walk, so we sent Somy home and headed straight to Mohamad's house. He warned us to be quiet, again same like Fatima said back in Kashan, CS is illegal in Iran and so he didnt want the neighbors to find out. He also told us, to greet his parents, and then we move straight to the room. LOL.

So in we went, gave salam to his parents who were watching tv. And headed to his room. Similar to Fatima's house in Kashan, Mohamad's house had a toilet outside the house, and the shower inside the house. I guess its a typical house design in Iran. After freshening up, we went to hangout in the living room, to watch tv and of course, drink tea. Mohamad taught us how to drink tea the Esfahan way. Basically the tea is brewed without sugar, and then they have these golden sugar pieces that you should put in your mouth, and then you sip the tea. Interesting eh. But alternatively, you can also put sugar cubes in your cup of tea like normal.

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We spent 3 nights in Esfahan, so I did talk and learned a fair bit about Iran from Mohamad and Somy.

I found out that the media in Iran is very controlled, including the tv shows. So most Iranian subscribe to cable tv which is illegal, but i guess everybody does it. The legal Iran tv is of course those shows and news endorsed by the govt and full of propaganda and all that. Since entertainment such as singing and stuff are not allowed in Iran, most of Iran singers and tv popstars moved to America after the 1979 revolution, filmed their tv dramas and song video clips over there, and these are shown on the illegal cable tv that Iranians subscribe to. There are no karaokes in Iran, and the cinemas show Iranian movies that follow the Islamic rules so to speak.

Mohamad's parents are practicing Muslims. Mohamad said his parents must like my cousin and I very much because we are also Muslims, and we wear the hijab the proper way ,as in not a single strand of hair showing, unlike in Iran where most women just drapes a shawl over their head with hair showing at the front/forehead, mainly because they are only doing it because they are following the bare minimum of Islamic rules in Iran. Of course there were also alot of women who wear proper hijab in Iran, especially in Shiraz, the people there are supposedly more religious, at least thats what it looks like by way of appearance. But to me, appearance doesnt mean everything.

Mohamad said he used to practice Islamic teachings, he prays and has been to umrah, he even said he used to memorize the whole Quran, he understands arabic as well, as he learned archaic arabic in school when he was younger.. but now he said he's disillusioned with Islam. he claims he's an atheist, he doesnt pray anymore, i forgot to ask if he fasts during Ramadhan. The reasons he's not practicing Islam anymore is really disheartening to know, actually. Him, as most of the youth in Iran, are angry with the government. See, the govt imposes these strict Islamic rules of law in Iran, hence so many things are controlled like the media (nothing sexy can be shown, for e.g.), all women must cover their hair, all women must wear lose clothing and the blouses must cover the butt, men can't wear shorts, men and women cannot live in the same house together unless you are family or married, entertainment centers such as karaoke doesnt exist, singing is not allowed, alcohol is illegal, and many more. So these youths feel very restricted and cant enjoy their lives, yet they see all these things on tv and in movies, and also alot of Iranians have been to Malaysia and they compare why Malaysia is a muslim country yet we are free to do alot of things, how we can be an islamic country yet also moderate and kinda secular and we dont have any restrictions like that.. (well we are a multi racial country actually, only 60% is muslim). back to the govt, with them imposing these islamic rules, yet they are also corrupted and actually do these restricted things themselves, at least behind closed doors. Furthermore, because of these restrictions in their way of life which they feel are forcefully imposed on themselves, they have a negative view of Islam. Hence most are only Islam in name, but doesnt practice, just like Mohamad. Its a pity really that it has come to this. The very thing that the govt is trying to achieve (a truly Islamic country) is moving people away from Islam.  You know its human nature that people are more tempted to the stuff they are not allowed to do. But this is not the first time ive heard this. Back in Korea, i attended the Busan International Film Festival, an annual event. I went to see one of the movies directed by an Iranian guy, but the movie was about Palestine. Anyway, after the movie, i went to talk to him a little, but rather than ask about his movie, I asked him about Iran. And the sentiment i got from him is exactly the same as what i got from Mohamad. Youths are angry and frustrated.

I also found out from Somy that appearance and what they do in public is very important. For e.g., on one of the days we were in Esfahan, it was a public holiday (Prophet Muhammad's birthday), so we went out that day with Somy and her friend. Before that, she reminded me not to mention about her having a boyfriend, i.e. Mohamad, to her friend. So, she even had to hide the fact that she has a boyfriend (which she calls her fiance) from her friend. In fact, I also found out that even Somy's family doesnt know that she has a boyfriend, and Mohamad's family also doesnt know that he has a girlfriend. Yet both of them hang out together alot obviously (they met when Mohamad was an english teacher and Somy was a student of his, around 2 years ago). And whenever we hangout with Somy and Mohamad, Somy always had to go home by 8pm because it wouldnt look good to people and her family if she stayed out too late. The youth feel restricted not only by the govt, but they are also 'governed' by the culture and perception of Iranian people, especially the elderly, their parents, their family etc. Somy's friend whom we went out with is currently working towards getting a visa and emigrate to Canada. Because life in Iran is hard and restrictive and all that. Its also hard life for Iranians because of the sanctions, which have been around for 1-2 decades right, meaning for people like Somy and Mohamad, half of their lives have lived under the sanctions.

Mohamad however, preferred Ahmadinejad rather than Hassan Rouhani. He said the former was more vocal and did more action in fighting corruption in the govt when he was President. so in this regard, he was not in the mainstream where most people including Hamoon who did not like Ahmadinejad, not just in Iran but in the world. Mohamad came ot Malaysia before, to take his IELTS test actually, he was here for 2 weeks. He said in the middle of KL, and from his stories he told me, he went to bars and clubs (a famous one where tourists frequent in the heart of KL), his friends even brought back girls to their apartment after their night out (but he didnt, according to him), they drank beer, and he said the girls in Malaysia are very sexy. Well, this really depends on which part of KL, or anywhere in Malaysia you go. hahahaha. He also asked why he saw women (some, not all obviously) in Malaysia who wear the hijab but wear really tight clothes. yes, one of the signs of Qiamah, "women cover themselves but appear naked anyway. Mohamad wants to emigrate from Iran, but of course its not easy, he also needs money, and he doesnt think he has any qualifications to work elsewhere. one time when we came home after a day out with Somy and her friend, we spent a few minutes talking to his Mom, and funnily enough, his mom was pouring her heart out to us about Mohamad, hahahaha. she was worried that Mohamad doesnt want to marry and would not even discuss the issue (Mohamad's sister is married and has a 2 year old kid which is super cute omg). I never told this to Mohamad though. everynight we would hangout in the living room drinking tea and this is usually the time when we would talk. During the day my cousin and I would go sight seeing in town, Mohamad stays at home because he has to study, but at night we'd just talk. One of the nights my cousin slept early, so it was just me and him, and I had to show him my pictures with Somy and her friend secretly because he doesnt want his mom to see (she watches tv in another room where there is a bed that she can lie down, we were in the main living room, but still had to be careful). Mohamad even requested to see my hair. lol. typical requests ive gotten from a few of my non-Malaysian friends. Anyway, Mohamad is really nice and considerate as a person, he was helpful, always picking us up and sending us, helping us buy bus tickets and all that and was a really good host. If he didnt have finals to study for, im sure we would have had more time to hangout around the city. His parents seem to be used to Mohamad bringing back foreigners home because of his couchsurfing activities, haha. Mohamad says he doesnt really like hosting westerners and europeans, and prefer Asians and chinese.

So many things i talked about with Mohamad, but for now this is all what i recall.

Oh there is one thing i forgot to mention. When in Kashan, I told you that Mostafa works as a tour guide right. That week, he was a tour guide for an American. We found out that Americans and British and Canadians are not allowed to travel anywhere in Iran without a registered guide. They can only be on their own in their hotel or wherever they are staying, but the moment they step out of their hotel door, they must have a tour guide with them, its required by law. hahahahahhaha. how interesting!! and how pitiful ;p

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How Iranians brew their tea. The pot below is where they boil the hot water. Above the pot, is a smaller teapot where they would brew highly concentrated tea. When the water is boiled, they would pour only a small amount of tea in the cup, and then dilute it with the boiled water.

TBC

Iran Chronicles, Part 3

Note: Made this trip end of 2015

Kashan & Abyaneh & Esfahan

Day 4

Today's story is pretty boring i think. I dont have much to say, and nothing you cant find out on the internet if you're interested to know more about the places I visited. I'll put more pictures instead :)

The next morning, we said bye to Fatima, and headed out with Mostafa her husband, where he drove us to the place we were going to visit, namely some old houses turned into museum and a traditional bath house. That same morning, he was going to an interview of some sort for his eventual military service thing. After he dropped us, we put our bags at his friend's bookshop nearby, and started our self-tour. First up was a place called Tabatabei House. Its basically the house of a former carpet businessman, he was also very rich in his time about 200 years ago, its really pretty.. the artwork is very intricate and detailed, the architect was a famous Iranian named Kamal al-Mulk, there's a square in the middle, as always, rooms for guests and praying rooms and servants room, and all that. There was a Iranian guide there with some tourists from China, so we found most of these details and history of the house from her.. I usually do this actually, when i don't hire guides coz im a cheapskate,, I'd leech onto other people's guides hahahaha.

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Next we walked for 5 minutes to another house called the Borujerdi House. The story was that the man who built this house, wanted to marry the daughter of the owner of Tabatabei House, but his future father in law said, he has to first build a house as lavish and equal to his house because his daughter is used to living like a princess, in short. hahahahha. So he built Bourjerdi House, however it took too long to build it, and after 4 years and the still under construction, the father allowed his daughter to marry this guy, and he continued to build it and completed it after 17 years. lol. But still, it wasnt as impressive as the father in laws house.


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Next was the Sultan Amir Ahmad hammam, which is a traditional bath house. Very pretty and beautiful, i would love to go to a real working bath house that looks like this. I kinda regretted not going to the bath houses when I was in Budapest back in 2013. Im determined to go to one when I visit Istanbul one day. This bath house also had really interesting looking water tanks located at the roof top.

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We finished our self tour about 10 minutes before the appointed time our driver arranged by Mostafa to take us to our next destination which was Abyaneh. We agreed on the taxi price, then hopped in to the car to make a pitstop to a Fin Garden. There are several fin gardens all around Iran, which have been designated as Unesco World Heritage sites.


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TBC

Monday, January 25, 2016

Iran Chronicles, Part 2

Hamoon said the sanctions really made life hard for Iranians, i was struggling to understand how sanctions work though because seemed like a lot of stuff was available in Tehran, like branded clothes (in the shopping malls), food and all the typical stuff that can be found in the bazaar, essential items, toys, even the latest handphones... everything seemed normal to me. Hamoon said its all a very big and organized smuggling ring, everything i see in Iran is smuggled, he said, still, it was hard to comprehend such a scale, at least for me, even if its all smuggled, its more like an open smuggle, and if its open smuggle, it might as well be normal import/export business. but he did say most stuff are more expensive than what you can find overseas by some margin, most people i met said Apple products are very expensive in Iran (when they saw i used iphone and ipad), but when we compared the price of Apple products in Malaysia and Iran, it turned out to be almost the same after conversion in US dollars (even using the old currency rates before the market crisis happening right now). so, hmm. Foreign credit cards are obviously cannot be used in Iran, but they have found ways around it for foreigners, at least at shops that sell expensive stuff like carpets ;p When asked about politics, Hamoon said most people did not like Ahmadinejad and he liked the current president Hassan Rouhani better. and of course everybody says the govt. is corrupted. like so so corrupted. the supreme leader being the Ayatollah, he likened it to our Muftis in Malaysia.

In Tehran, there is this big and very long main street that goes all the way from north to south of Tehran city called Vali Asr, the north side lives the affluent neighborhood and people, which was where Amir's house was located at, at Velenjak street. We walked around the bazaar at Tajrish Sq, also at the north side of Vali Asr, and that night we had dinner and coffee all around the same area. obviously Hamoon and Amir are the more fortunate and well-to-do Iranians. As you move towards the south side of Vali Asr street, you can find and see drug addicts and prostitutes and the poorer people of Iran, so Hamoon said. In fact, we did pass through the southern side of Tehran on our way to Qom and Kashan the next day (on the bus), and saw the more dilapidated buildings, square boring brown buildings. At the north side, the buildings were very European to my surprise. I didnt feel like I was in a Middle Eastern city (i was comparing to Cairo and Amman and Makkah and Muscat and Old Dubai). I am careful not to say Arab cities, because Iranians are Persians and they dont like the Arabs and they are also not Arabs, they'll get mad if we call them Arabs. Hamoon said before the 1979 Islamic revolution, Iran was very westernized and it was during this time the leaders at the time built the buildings following the european architecture especially the french. Its amazing really to see it with my eyes. the place where we had coffee was at one of the museums with european architecture, it was really very fancy. even the place we had dinner at. about 100-200 years ago, the main language in Iran was actually french, and they still used some french in their daily conversations, like merci and billet, im sure there are more. it was funny that i was saying merci alot while i was in iran! hahahaha.

Late that night, i got a confirmation from the CS host in Kashan who initially declined, saying the she could host us at the last minute. we were going to Kashan the next day, lucky! or else i was already prepared to find accom on arrival to the city.

Apparently Tehran is kinda polluted which i mistook for haze, that day we went to Tochal was particularly bad as you can see from the picture below. But more than a week later when i was back in Tehran before my flight home, it was so clear, and it was really beautiful because you can see the snow capped mountains surrounding all of Tehran in the north side, even from a distance of 40km from the mountains. lovely!!

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Tehran from telecabin 1st station (roughly 900m asl)

Qom & Kashan

Day 3

After another hearty Iranian breakfast and armed with food to eat by Farida, we took the subway to the bus station to get ourselves to Qom. The subway (also public buses) are separated for men and women. I saw many women selling products on the subway, moving around in the subway from car to car carrying the stuff they are selling from panty hose to skin scare to knives, making ends meet. some friendly ladies came to talk to me as usual. At the bus station, ticket sellers were standing outside their buses shouting the destinations, we approached the one going to Qom, paid our 200,000 rials (aka 20,000 toman, about 6 usd) per billet, and the bus made its way when it was almost full. Even while the bus was moving slowly, the minders were still standing at the steps and shouting the destinations, and they picked up a few more passengers along the way right before it entered the highway. and our bus driver was a lady too. i gave some fruits to the minders and bus driver, and he in return gave us hot tea. everywhere its tea, tea is everywhere. love tea. haha. the bus was very comfortable and spacious.

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A billboard with the words 'ya Ali' (was on the bus Tehran-Qom)

Qom was a pitstop, we were dropped at a small bus station next to the highway, took a taxi to Jamkaran Mosque (not knowing the significance of the mosque yet). wore our customary chador (it was always provided at the entrance of most mosques), and went it. most mosques in Iran have a open air square in the middle, and the praying area with the mimbar will be at one of the sides where the kiblat is facing outwards. the interior of the mosques are very beautiful, the designs intricate and very good craftsmanship. very cozy, while my cousin prayed zuhur/asar jama', (i was on 'holiday' lol), i took my time just watching the syiah women pray using their stones. the syiah use a stone that they put at the position where they sujud, so their forehead will touch the stone instead of the sajdah or the ground. everything other prayer movements seems to be similar to us. the quran they used are also the same. at the entrance to prayer area, most mosques would provide plastics to put your shoes in and bring it with you.

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Jamkaran Mosque in Qom. You can see the pictures of Ayatollah Khomenei and Ayatollah Khamenei on the left and right of the entrance to the praying area. This duet pictures of the Ayatollahs can be seen everywhere in Iran.


After that, we took a bus to another place called the Fatima Mausoleum, or the Holy Shrine of Fatima. At first i thought it was the Holy Shrine for Saiyidina Ali RA's wife, or Rasulullah's daughter, since i don't know any other Fatima, although I was a bit skeptical of my own assumptions. We walked from the bus stop to the shrine, carrying our backpacks, and lo and behold, a friendly Iranian came to chat with us. Again, he correctly guessed we are from Malaysia, although he did ask my the style of my hijab was different from what my cousin was wearing (she was wearing something like a fancy snowcap-like head/hair cover). I wore my usual hijab like u've seen numerous times before. This man said he's been to Malaysia before. Seeing this man was eager to talk to us and show us around, i took the opportunity to ask him all the questions i had about this shrine, a free tour guide! ;p. His name is Iman, first he helped us locate the place to store our bags, and then we went ahead to enter the shrine and told him to meet us inside, but we were turned back because we didnt have chador. We started going to the chador place, and then Iman suddenly appeared again, i guess he saw us not going in, and he walked with us to get the chador, then we queued to enter the shrine, which was really huge and had like over 20 different entrances i think. Btw most entrances into shrines and mosques for the women are covered with curtains. At the entrance behind the curtains, there were women inspectors to check our bags and stuff. When we wanted to enter the shrine, we were stopped. It was obvious that we were tourists (again, despite the hijab and being muslim, we couldnt really pass off as locals ahhaa). usually there were no problems entering mosques. But this was a Shrine of someone important to the syiah community, so they were wondering why we wanted to go inside. And tourists usually come in arranged groups and tours, yet there were only two of us. so after they checked with their head office which took some time, we were finally let go to enter the shrine. Iman was already waiting inside at the square.

What we found out from Iman, our adhoc tour guide:
About the prayer stones, it is made of clay from a place called Mashad. This city is where their 8th Imam Reza comes from, hence they believe the clay is holy i think. The syiah believe in 12 Imams, the first being Imam Ali, our 4th Khalifah, and all the rest of their Imams are descendants of Saiyidina Ali RA (btw these stones sell for like 1 usd in the bazaars). The Shrine that we were visiting is the sister of Imam Reza, who died in Qom while on the way to Mashad to visit his brother. Right, that makes more sense to me! hehe... here was the first time i saw the mirror mosaic architecture, and the whole interior was decorated with mirrors, with the mausoleum right in the middle, there were so many people inside and outside the shrine, and people were surrounding the tomb, touching it and stuff. its not the first time ive seen something like this though, the touching and all, as if by touching a holy shrine, they'd get the barakah or whatever, i dont really understand. i once saw the same thing in Ajmer Sharif Dargah in India, when i was there back in 2011, there was located a sufi shrine, and the indians brought offerings and such to the shrine, touching and praying in the area, reading the quran, and they were muslims, its as if the practices of the Hindus (bringing offerings) and Islam were assimilated, and again i saw the same thing in Makkah, when the indians/pakistanis were touching the Kaabah.. even Nabi Ibrahim's makam.. and at the top of Jabal Rahmah (where supposedly is the location where Nabi Adam met Eve), these people revere the tombs and the monuments alike.. the police had to place people at these people to prevent them from doing that, but its too much to handle really. so anyway, photography was not allowed inside the shrine,.. it was amazing, the architecture that is. by the time we left the shrine it was already 4.30pm, and that after turning down Iman's offer to drink tea and talk some more..we didnt want to arrive in Kashan too late. Iman wanted to visit Malaysia again, he took my phone number down. one of the things he asked was, "Iran is a syiah country, you are sunni, why do u want to visit Iran?" but at the end of the day, they'd say, its good no problem we are all muslims, we should welcome each other.

Another thing i found out from Iman was that, the Jamkaran Mosque that we visited earlier was actually dedicated to Imam Mahdi, which they believe is their 12th Imam, and its the same Imam Mahdi as Sunnis believe.

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Mirror mosaic at the entrance of Fatima Holy Shrine, the whole interior was decorated like this.

We got on our bus to Kashan around 5pm, the other passengers probably paid extra to get a packet of biscuits and drinks, coz we didnt get them, but one guy gave his to us. When we reached Kashan, he invited us to share a taxi with him to the bazaar area in Kashan because that was where he was headed as well (he didnt speak English so it was all sign language lol), apparently he had a textile shop and sold men's clothing at the bazaar, and his two sons were waiting for him at this shop. we walked around the bazaar, and we were also desperate to go to the toilet, so we found a mosque with the men's toilet at the front, we couldnt find the women's toilet, then we saw an iranian women who simply went into the men's toilet, and we just followed suit. men who came into the toilet later were shocked to find us in there, but we paid little mind hahahahaha. again, being non local and not being able to speak Farsi was our ticket to do whatever we did (feigning clueless-ness as tourists/foreigners who doesnt understand how things work) hehehehehehehe.

we were hungry so we looked for some falafel and waited at the shop for our CS host to pick us up. Our host, her name was Fatima, came to pick us up with her friend. She's a part time english teacher who teaches english at the university for engineering students, her classed finished earlier than expected, and we went straight to her house. As we were arriving at her house, she dropped the bomb: "btw, couchsurfing is illegal in Iran". hahahahahahahhaha. really? okayy. she told us to be quiet, and before we left the car, we made sure there were no nosy neighbors around looking, as far as we could see, and quietly entered her house. her friend left, and then i found out she was married, and her husband was on the way home. Apparently her husband is a tour guide, and she helps her husband with the tour guide work sometimes.

i asked more about CS being illegal in Iran. The govt is very well aware of CS, they declare it illegal in the country, but they don't really catch people doing it as long as the surfers and the host dont stir trouble while couchsurfing. trouble such as making noise or whatever else, or if neighbors don't complain. The govt knows and monitors the websites and all. the reason they dont take any action despite declaring it illegal is because they also know that CS is very famous in Iran and its one of the unofficial way to encourage tourists to come to Iran and say good things about Iran. as ive already mentioned, Iranians are very friendly, and so many people have only good things to say about the hospitality of iranians, its like the word of mouth kind of promoting tourism in Iran. CS hosts in Iran is very limited, and Fatima said that the hosts gets requests from surfers like all the time, almost everyday, especially those in Shiraz and Esfahan, the more touristic cities. They have their own lives too and can't accept every single request that comes in. Also, its illegal for women to stay at a man's house and vice versa, especially if they are single, so even hosts have to be careful in choosing the surfers they agree to host. So she said, that's probably the reason why 3 hosts in Shiraz have already turned us down.

about 30 minutes later, her husband came back, we ate some bread and drank tea, and he offered us saffron ice cream, which sounded exotic but didnt taste really good. although we forced ourselves to finish it since it was impolite to not finish it, lol. Fatima and her husband, Mostafa operate the Free Iran Tour in Kashan, following the same modus operandi as the free tours available in most big european cities, which i totally utilize whenever i am touring europe. basically, these free tours make money from tips, and its up to you how much you want to give. they have their free iran tour page on tripadvisor, and they rank number one in the things to do in Iran, as voted by users. amazing right? from the tourists Fatima and Mostafa get from their free tours, they offer further paid arranged tours, in Kashan and all around Iran. they've been doing this for 2 years now. Mostafa was also previously and english teacher. He said his pay from a month of being and english teacher is the same as how much he could make in a week as a tour guide, and that's about 200 usd. the risk though, when he get requests to arrange for tours in Iran from foreigners, is that the foreigners couldnt pay or use their credit card, and they cant get paid, like the usual deposit, before the tourists actually arrive and meet them in Iran, so Mostafa has to front their own money first making the necessary bookings. and sometimes these tourists may cancel at the last minute due to inability to get visas, for instance. and that is money gone for them, unless they make other arrangements to get back their money, which seems very hard (like sometimes someone they know is going overseas and the foreigner would bank in their money in a bank and that someone will withraw it from that bank that is not in Iran and then he will bring back the money into Iran, something like that.

so anyway, we used Mostafa's contacts (he offered) and he arranged for us a hotel in Shiraz, which cost only like 16 usd a night for a double room (our room we booked in Yazd cost 40 usd a night). we couldnt have gotten this deal from any online sources, or if we booked ourselves. it was a rate for locals. we also arranged for a driver to drive us to Esfahan the next day, with a pitstop in Abyaneh. (we couldve taken a bus straight to Esfahan but we wanted to detour to Abyaneh, which cannot be done if we took the bus). once all of that was arranged, i was ready to sleep. we slept in the living room on one side, while Mostafa and Fatima also slept in the living room at the other end, it was a huge area. my cousin did her prayers, and after that we got to talking with Mostafa the differences between sunni and syiah, like the prayers and ablution. you might know this already, but i'll write it down anyway.

The basic prayers, and the amount of rakaah is the same as us. But the difference is that syiah only pray three times a day. The subuh, 2 rakaah. And then they combine Zuhur and Asr, as in praying at the same time, one after the other. both prayers 4 rakaah, so a total of 8 rakaah with 2 salams. And then at maghrib time, they combine Maghrib and Isyak, also the same number of rakaah, 3 and 4 each, with 2 salams. As for ablution, its also the same with us except the feet, whereby they only slightly touch a part of their feet with water, whereas we would wash our whole feet thoroughly.

Mostafa and Fatima have never been to Malaysia. they said its not easy for them to leave the country because Mostafa have not yet completed his 18 months compulsory military service thats imposed on all Iranian men citizen above 18 years old. If they wanted to leave the country for a trip, they must get special permission from the government, or if it was an official trip like presenting at a conference or something like that. So Mostafa is preparing to do his military service soon, and because he is married, he is allowed to do it in Kashan where he lives. I told them that I'd be happy to bring them around in KL whenever they come to Malaysia one day.

TBC

Iran Chronicles, Part 1

An amazing yet misunderstood country. Where do i start?

Prologue
I told you that I had so many things to share about Iran.. but how come its not the same about Iceland? See the difference is that, to talk about Iceland, I'd only have to say that Iceland is beautiful with out of this world landscapes in so many different words, but the central idea is the same, the allure is in its nature, and if i wanted to go a little further, i'd probably talk about the geographical formations.. but that's it. and anyway, showing pictures of Iceland was enough to show all about the country, although even the pictures couldnt do justice to how beautiful Iceland's scenery is in real life. also, i didnt really have any contacts and culture experience with local Icelanders.

But for Iran, there's the culture, architecture, history, people and their life, and politics and regime, the young and the old, and last but not least, Syiah.. which interests me as a fellow muslim and particularly as a Sunni. there's so much we can discuss about.

As always, there's only a handful of people that I told about going to Iran, that includes my family. The typical first question is, why Iran? what's in Iran? isn't it dangerous? you better be careful, its a syiah country, they'll convert you.. or, the syiah's hate the sunnis. something along those lines. you were one of the few who didn't respond in this manner, thank you for that. first of all, i personally think these are ignorant questions, but maybe its not really their fault for having these perceptions of a country that's always reported in a bad light in the media.. btw, i got the same "isnt it dangerous" response when I went to South America in 2011, the central worry being about drug gangs and slums. i for one believe that Iran is not a dangerous country at all, because Kimal has been there before and i trust him with my life when it comes to traveling, and ive read enough travel blogs by couples and solo women travelers alike who all said that Iran is safe, even safer than my own country.

ok so some parts might be mundane, this is probably like writing a diary.. some minute details might find its way here (as far as my useless brain can recall) this is going to be a looooooonggggggggg email so hope you don't mind or get too bored. ;p

Itinerary planning
i actually totally forgot about my iran trip until about less than 2 weeks before my flight out. i spent one full day working out the general itinerary and scanning places of interest to go at each city and also prioritizing to plan how many days is adequate to stay at those cities within the limited time frame. seriously 11 days seemed too short. so I fly into Tehran, and the order goes: Tehran-Qom-Kashan-Abyaneh-Esfahan-Yazd-Shiraz and back to Tehran for my flight back to KL. the first thing i had to do was buy a domestic flight ticket from Shiraz to Tehran. and i had my first taste of Iran even before leaving Malaysia. lol. I couldn't use my credit card to buy those tickets online, only Iranian-issued debit/credits are allowed for any transaction... hahahaha i should've known this was going to be the case, with the sanctions in place and all. But we're so used to not having such restrictions that I didn't really think about it. I was going for Mahan Air, so I told my cousin, who then said she will ask her former Iranian student named Amir (more on this later) to buy the tickets for us. At the same time, I told her to ask Amir to check tickets for Iran Air as well, to compare the prices. He got back to us and said Iran Air was cheaper, and told my cousin to go to the Iran Air office in KL to buy said tickets. and so finally we managed to secure them.

Amir also had an Iranian friend in KL who gave us really good rates to exchange RM and IRRs (Iranian rials). My budget was about usd 350 dollars max for ground expenses for 11 days, but i only exchanged usd 250 first. I wouldve spent 200 ringgit more if i used the official money exchangers with current rates. Im not sure if this was an illegal or black market transaction hahahaha. i think of it more like a mutually agreed and beneficial business transaction between two parties ;p

Accommodation planning
Next up was accommodation. My plan was mostly to couchsurf (CS) in Iran (you know how couchsurfing works right?) mainly because Kimal did that in Iran as well, and also it was not so easy to find accom in Iran from online sources.. those with information and means to be contacted are often the more expensive ones or are mentioned in Lonely Planet which means their rates are already marked up because they get a lot of foreigners already (btw I rarely use LP for any of my travels). I've also had some prior experience couchsurfing, i'll save that story for next time (if u remember to ask ;p)

My cousin was a former lecturer at Universiti Sains Malaysian (USM) in Penang, and she had an Iranian student that she was friends with. His name is Amir Talebi (btw Talebi means watermelon in Farsi hehe). Amir did his Masters in USM, and now doing his Phd there as well. He had invited my cousin to Iran long time ago and many times and had always offered his family's home in Tehran to stay at. However, this end of year 2015 he did not plan to go back to Tehran for holidays, but he already told his parents about us coming and they welcomed us to stay at their house in Tehran while we were there. So accom in Tehran settled. and here i thought, how opportune that my cousin wanted to join on what was supposed to be a solo trip.. coz i dont know any Iranians prior.

Qom and Abyaneh was going to be a pitstop, For Kashan, i got a reply on the room rates from one of the hotels there, but it was kinda too expensive for my budget, USD 60 per night for a double bed room. so i didn't book it. Initially i wanted to look for CS hosts in only Esfahan and Shiraz coz I planned to stay at these places for more than one night. I don't really wanna trouble potential hosts for only 1 day. I also tried to look for female hosts first.. the first person I contacted in Esfahan couldn't host me saying she had guests in her house (im guessing her relatives), but luckily her "fiance", which i found out later is only her boyfriend not fiance, agreed to host me instead, lucky!

For Yazd i contacted 2 hotels and only 1 replied, usd 40 for a double bed at a traditional guest house, which was still relatively expensive by my standards but i took it anyway, seeing i am already saving 3 nights of accom expenses in Esfahan, and i thought it would be nice to experience a traditional guesthouse, whatever that was. it turned out to be a building with a square in the middle with fountains and a nice place to hangout and the rooms are all around it.. the dining room was also in the square.

I contacted 3 different hosts in Shiraz but all of them declined me, the first a lady who didnt give me any reasons,the second a guy who first said maybe and then declined and also didnt say why, and the third declined and said he was already hosting other people on the same dates that I requested to surf and wished me well on my trip. btw these correspondences with the Shiraz hosts happened when i was already in Iran.. a day before my flight to Tehran I contacted the hotel in Kashan again to book the expensive room but i didnt get any reply until the end. And as a last resort, i contacted a CS host in Kashan. and then I flew to Tehran with only accoms in Tehran (Amir's parents) and Esfahan (CS host-Somy + Mohamad the fiance) and Yazd (traditional guesthouse) confirmed. Kashan and Shiraz were still up in the air.

Tehran 

Day 1
I arrived at Imam Khomenei Interational Airport late at night, i wasnt sure how strict Iran was on women's dressing, so i wore a black abaya with black scarf, and my long coat was also black. lol. arranged and paid for my visa on arrival at the airport. after the immigration, i tried to look for a local sim card but there was none to be found. went outside and haggled my taxi price, once i got the price i wanted (ended up sharing a taxi w another passenger). During this ride, my first experience with the friendliness of Iranians. The taxi driver couldnt stop talking and asking me questions, and all this he did in Farsi, he didnt speak english, the typical case of a duck talking to a chicken, but we understood each other perfectly fine, the usual questions of where im from where im going in Iran yada yada.. at one point, he pointed to every single object around us, outside and inside the taxi, and thought me the Farsi word of those objects. think i learned close to 30 new words in Farsi that night, all of which of course ive forgotten by now ;p . and btw, he drove like a MANIAC. in fact, everybody in Iran drives like a maniac. and i thought ive seen the worse of it all, having seen the traffic and drivers in Hanoi and Cairo and New Delhi, which are also over the top CRAZY.

By the time i reached Amir's apartment, i saw a guy which turned out to be his father already waiting at the front steps of the building, he mustve seen me coming from the window. A fair man and good enough spoken english for us to have good and interesting conversations. My cousin arrived earlier in the morning (we took different flights), was still out sight seeing but was already otw home, she arrived about 10 minutes later. The first thing i noticed about the apartment that there were a lot of figurines, like seriously all around the house, displayed in glass cabinets and on tables etc. there were also many paintings of people and stuff, you know like what you'd see in Italy or those famous during the Renaissance period. I was a bit surprised by this, since its very unislamic. I found out later that Amir to my cousin that his mother is a practicing muslim, i did see her pray, but Amir was silent about his father.

we had a great home cooked dinner by Amir's mom. OMG so delicious. She cooked for us ghorme sabzi and zeleshk polo and brewed tea. I ordered these dishes much later in Shiraz at a restaurant, but they weren't as good as Amir's mom cooking. Amir's mom, Farida doesnt speak english. Anyway during dinner the usual greetings and questions were asked, and then we talked about carpets. Yes ive always know Iranian carpets are of high quality and expensive, but omw when i found out the prices of the carpets in that house, i was blown away. some even cost up to 5000 us dollars!. i learned a few things about carpets, the composition and knots and quality and differences between handmade and machinemade and all that stuff. it was all very interesting. Farida showed us of a book published by Amir in malaysia (it was actually just a compilation of journal papers about.. environmental topics, like water treatments and stuff like that, related to his studies obviously, hahaha sorry i dont remember), you can see how proud the mother is. Amir's sister lives in Germany w her husband and kid (their only grandson for now), and Amir's brother lives and works in America, he has a double degree (one in engineering, another in accounting), he was back for the holidays but was leaving for the states again in 2 days time. Amir's brother who was out wanted to take us out that night to hangout, we said ok but we ended up sleeping by the time he came back to fetch us, i guess we were so tired by the whole journey.

Tehran was COLD. low singles deg celcius.

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Ghorme sabzi (dark brown), and zeleshk polo (chicken w rice, berries on top)


Day 2
The next day, after Iranian style breakfast (arab bread, walnuts, feta cheese, cream, butter and tea) we headed to Tochal.. its a mountainous area just behind Amir's house, which was purely coincidental that it was so near. we walked to the entrance gates and took the telecabin (what they call cable cars) up to the second highest station (5th station) at about 2850 m asl. the highest station are only allowed for skiers and snowboarders. omg it was so beautiful, on the way up there and also at the top. snow covered mountains and with clear blue skies, once in a while the cloud would cover until visibility is zero, then the clouds would pass and the view was incredibly beautiful. and this just a stone's throw away from Tehran. we also hiked for half hour in the snow before heading back to town later. Being a mother, Farida had already packed for us fruits and bread, so we also ate those while just chillin sittin on the rocks and enjoying the view. and again, it was freakin cold, like subzero. even Iceland wasnt this cold (at times). It being a Friday (weekend in Iran), the queue was very long to get on the telecabin. All the while i was queuing, i was checking out all these handsome Iranians, feast for my eyes really! it was too cold for me to even hold a conversation with my cousin, so the next best thing was to people watch hahahaahah. There were alot of people who also hiked from the first station all the way up to the 5th station. amazing feat, im thinking maybe next time if i ever go to Tehran again (which will not be in winter), i'd do the hike up. At one point while we were up there, a couple of guys approached us, correctly guessing that we are Malaysians, my cousin left me to my own devices as she went to the toilet, so these guys were telling us they're going to Malaysia in a couple of weeks time, and asked about hotel prices and what not, some questions about Malaysia and KL, are we muslims or not (somehow we get asked this question a lot eventhough we were wearing proper hijab, unlike most of the Iranians who typically show some hair at the front) then the killer question, how much is the price of beer? LOL. he said the price in Thailand was about 4 ringgit per bottle i think. hahahahhaha, i honestly dont know how much beer costs in Malaysia really, but i think it should be more expensive than our neighbor in the north. He took my facebook id and said he will add me later when he gets home when he will have access to VPN (facebook is blocked in Iran).

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Tochal

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​Tochal


later back in town, we met with another Iranian friend of my cousin who was the first ever student from Iran in USM, and whom later worked in USM after he finished his bachelors and masters there. Now he's doing his Phd in Singapore. Hamoon, is his name, and he's a delight really, he speaks really fast, very metro and fashionable (which I concluded from the pink color pants he was wearing that day), he came with his friend, and she's like sooo pretty. he speaks very highly of Malaysia, and speaks very poorly of Iran. LOL. its funny really. He says Iran is weird and he doesnt understand his own country. we went for coffee and later barbecue dinner and then coffee again, by the time we came home it was around 9 or 10pm i think. His thesis topic is something about the role of women in islamic Jihad. As part of his research, he has been to countries like Turkey and Jordan and Lebanon etc, went to refugee camps and interviewed a lot of women, including ISIS defectors. it was sooooooo interesting. although i didnt have time to ask more about this, but i will if i meet him again next time. I'm going to singapore soon, maybe we can meet up for a chat..

TBC

Saturday, September 21, 2013

Almost perfect getaway

My 2-week travel in South Africa, which i just came back from a few days ago, was the break that i hadn't realized i needed. I was apprehensive at first since only 2 of us were traveling. You know how traveling can make or break a relationship/friendship, even more so when there's only 2 people. Long periods of traveling w the same person brings out the best, and the worse in people. Anyway, this trip turned out very well, not only because i get to forget my problems here, but also because i appreciate my buddies more than i ever would have. Being in this so called international school has made me realize that different culture/backgrounds doesnt matter when it comes to finding true friends, and true love. The obstacles are higher, but overcoming them just goes to show how great/mature/wonderful these people are.     

However, alas, the brief joy i had was not meant to be everlasting. The moment i stepped back into this shithole, i couldnt help being depressed all over again. Anyway, just got a few months left, i will keep myself extremely busy, kill this thesis, and then go on another month of adventure (traveling la, what else), return for my graduation ceremony, and leave all this behind for good. 

Just a plan. Hope it works out. 

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Almost Been Kissed.. and other stories

Music: Creep by TLC

First of all, to Idd.. i cannot believe we were at Jeju the same time! oh well..

Didn't think anyone was reading this blog haha.

Anyway, this is gonna be an entry of all the weird shit i got from guys while I was in Egypt and Jordan.. I just finished a marathon of Dexter seasons 5,6,and 7.. So my brain is sorta fucked up now.. that show can do that to you..

Alright..

It was only my second day of the month-long trip.. I was exploring downtown Amman alone.. i didnt really have any plans... started in the morning.. so lets cut to the chase.. around 3pm or so.. after spending 1 hour at the local library and having lunch at the Roman Amphitheater.. I started wandering away from downtown.. when I realized some guy was following me.. he was watching me.. at first i thought i was being paranoid.. but when i saw he was always behind me.. stopping when i stopped.. walked when i walked.. i realized he was really following me.. i started walking faster.. made sure i was always next to the main road.. where there were many cars.. took some pics here and there like a tourist, just didnt want him to know that i was panicking a bit. whenever i turned a corner and he couldnt see me.. i will run a bit to make a head way.. didnt want him to know i was running.. finally lost him.. come to think of it, i shouldnt have acted as a tourist and tried to blend in as a local instead.. ok mental note.

walked some more for an hour.. just following the crowd.. some women.. turns out i sort of made a big circle and ended back in downtown.. another guy approached me.. he wasn't arab.. he told me he's korean-american.. a transfer student.. he seemed harmless.. we chat a bit.. then he brought me to student hangout area for foreign students.. felt safe there.. met 2 australians at a a coffee shop.. then the 4 of us decided to go to the Citadel.. then we went for a drink.. the korean-american, turns out he lived near where I was staying..nearby Jordan University.. when we were on the bus.. he started being weird... to cut the long story short.. he told me wanted to kiss me. on the lips. and he said that like, directly. can u imagine a 30 minute conversation of him trying to convince me to do just that. wtf right? i managed to dodge it.. he even said, i dont have to do anything (suggesting he'll do the work). HAHAHA. and this happened only on my second day..

nothing happened for the next 10 days since I was hanging out with Malaysian friends.. then we parted in Aqaba since i was gonna take a ferry to Nuweiba.. they left after lunch time.. in that duration since they left until i boarded the ferry (at 12.30 AM), two guys (met them separately), invited me to their homes..i declined of course.. one guy was a divorcee.. another guy was in his early twenties.. the younger guy actually forced me to dance with him.. and later tried to hug me and kiss me as well.. managed to dodge it as well.. at one point i was shouting already.. crazy right.

I reached Nuweiba around 8am the next morning.. and went straight to Dahab (see previous posts). there was a guy from a shop here who knew me.. well, he called me to his shop.. sometimes its just so hard to say no.. but i learned to be stronger when it comes to declining things and people as time goes by.. throughout the 18 days i was in Egypt.. This guy, since he knew my real name, he always called me whenever i pass by his shop.. when he found out i was married for 1 year already (i wore a fake wedding ring and already have a fake story that comes with it whenever people asked).. this guy told me he was going to get married soon in about 40 days.. after chatting a few times.. at one point, he told me to share with him my 'first night' experience.. wtf rightttttttt.. i said no and no and no.. and he would insist and insist... after a few days he left me alone when it was obvious that i started ignoring him... another shopkeeper, also in Dahab.. took my phone from me and called his phone.. so that he has my number. he kept calling me for the next whole week.. i always didnt answer, until one time he called me when I was with my friend's friend in Cairo.. my friend is Malaysian, stayed at his house, and his friend is Egyptian and he sorta became my tour guide while i was in Cairo.. he took the phone from me, and answered it.. they exchanged some pleasantries.. lol.. then the calls stopped.I didnt get bothered much in Cairo coz of Mr. Bodyguard.. i was also most of the time watching movies and series at home at my friend's apartment..

in Luxor, some shopkeeper tricked me into writing a 'love letter' to his 'girlfriend' in the UK.. i knew i was being tricked but i went along with it because i didnt want him to get too angry or anything.. said no to buying anything from his shop, except for 2 bottles of water.. which i needed anyway, and he finally let me go..
when i was in Aswan, a Nubian guy cooked me dinner on his felucca... a really nice guy... i wasn't afraid of him.. but he did suggest for me to marry him and be his second wife.. he said his wife wouldn't mind.. hahahahhaa. i suppose he thinks i am rich.. i did read some articles before, some Egyptians do have foreigner wives.. usually older and rich.. and single.. with permission from their Egyptian wife.. since life is so hard there now, its not easy to make a living in Egypt especially for people who depend on tourism as income all their life.. its a win-win situation.. the lonely older rich European women get their sex fix, while the Egyptian guys get money to support their real family.. crazy right..

On my second last day of the trip, I was in Alexandria alone.. this city is quite nice... a welcome change from Cairo.. i went to visit King Farouk's castle.. there is a huge park there.. i was walking along a road.. right next to the palace.. it was a public area..open space.. many people were around.. mostly families and couples.. but spread sparsely around the park.. i was snapping a picture of the palace.. which was on my right... from the corner of my eye i saw a red car which stopped next to the road.. the driver came out.. and crossed the road to the side where i was walking.. i didnt pay attention too much.. as i finished snapping the picture... i looked in front of me.. and this guy, the driver of the red car.. was in front of me.. with his stupid fucking ugly ass of a dick out of his pants.. his fucking hands on it.. and he was shaking it up and down.. while looking at me.. smiling.. WTF right!!! i know about flashers... but i didnt think it would happen to me in freakin' Egypt!!! i pretended i saw nothing, not even a flicker of expression or any response.. i walked past this asshole like nothing happened.. and went on snapping pictures.. i think i handled it quite well.. i didnt shout..not a sound came out from me.. i know these guys get thrilled if the girl freaks out.. sick mother fuckers..

Later, on the same day, i walked to Qaitbey Fort.. it was a walk along the sea.. and next to the main road.. and the stalker thing happened again.. this guy followed me for at least 20 minutes... i wasnt scared this time, it was next to a busy main road and he couldnt possibly do anything to me without attracting attention... when i walked, he walked.. when i walked fast.. he walked fast.. when i slowed down.. he slowed down.. when i stopped... he would walk past me... wait out front.. and when i walk pass him, he would start following me again.. it was obvious because he kept looking at me.. and he was talking on his phone the whole while... i was figuring out how to get rid of him.. and make him stop.. i saw a mother with her child sitting down by the pavement, watching the sea... i went to sit next to them.. smiled at the mother.. and did what they did.. i enjoyed the view.. took pictures.. the guy stopped nearby and continued talking on his phone while keeping his eyes on me.. then the mother and child left.. so i moved on.. a few minutes later saw a chinese couple... went to them and talked to them.. tourist to tourist.. started the usual conversation topics ive had with many other travelers. then i told them what was happening and made it obvious that i was pointing to the guy who was following me.. so that he saw i was pointing at him.. identifying him.. making others identify him.. actually i was hoping the chinese couple were walking to the fort as well so we could walk together, but they were going in the opposite direction.. anyway, the trick worked.. by the time we finished talking, the guy was out of sight.. gone..

so there you go.. the creeps i met.. other things like being touched.. on the shoulder.. my back.. on the hands.. and arms.. is normal.. the fact that i wore a tudung didnt stop these guys.. muslim or not.. im not an arab women so they think they can get away with it i suppose..

so there you go.. some personal stories of a foreign muslim woman traveling alone in Egypt and Jordan.. i was prepared.. so i wasn't that shocked.. but i was more shocked that i handled the situations better than i expected.. because of these experiences... i really don't encourage any woman to travel alone in Egypt especially.. if you think u cant handle these kinds things.. or scared.. or whatever.. however, i myself don't have any regrets..

and i'd like to quote what my professor thought of me, which he said to me some weeks back,

"I think you think that all men are stupid"

i just smiled and said, "no comment". HAHAHA. 

Thursday, May 02, 2013

Under the Stars (Part 2)

Music: Try A Little Tenderness by Michael Buble

..continued from previous post

Walking at the Nabq mangrove area was pretty nice.. High Pitt, Biggy and I spent more than an hour there.. the feeling of the soft mud was amazing on my feet.. took some pictures.. High Pitt almost lost his camera (actually his university's camera) but we managed to find it again.. by the time we went back to our temporary roofless dwelling it was past 5pm, and our food was almost ready..

Cancun and Sweetie were already lying down on the makeshift carpet, taking a rest.. High Pitt went to join them and lied down beside Sweetie.. whereas Biggy and I took our spot next to our Bedouin guides.. waiting for food to be served.. the smell was soooo good and my stomach was already growling..

And then, all of a sudden.. Cancun was shouting and trying to hit High Pitt.. he actually punched High Pitt in the face... while shouting...

"WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING TO MY GIRLFRIEND???? YOU THINK I DIDN'T SEE YOU PUT YOUR HAND ON HER ASS??" (Actually he said more things... but basically that's the gist of it)

Sweetie was screaming.. "Oh my god... please stop!!! Stop it!!! Oh my god.. oh my god"

The bedouins quickly broke up the fight... "Its ok.. its ok... no problem here.. no problem... its ok"

Cancun finally said.. "I've never punched anyone before in my life! Oh my god that felt so good!"

and I was all the while watching the whole commotion from where I was sitting.. basically in awe of what was happening.. you see, I've never witnessed people literally fighting and punching before.. and I was also thinking how funny the situation was.. the whole day I noticed High Pitt was flirting with Sweetie.. lying down very close to her... whispering in her ears.. and stuff.. and she responded to him.. I guess Cancun just couldn't bare it anymore.. hahahaha

after that, Sweetie and Cancun went out of our camp site. to talk I guess.. High Pitt smiled sheepishly to the rest of us and said "Sorry about that" and Biggy had a 'I'm sorry it happened' expression on his face.. the Bedouins immediately served the food, and I started conversing with them like nothing happened... and the food was heavenly! by the time we finished eating, Sweetie and Cancun were still not back yet.. then High Pitt and Biggy went to walk by the beach.. and I stayed talking to Bedouins, drinking the delicious Egyptian tea.. and listening to the older Bedouin singing and playing a tune with a handmade guitar made of a tin, some sticks.. and steel strings..

Some minutes later, while the entertainment was ongoing, Sweetie and Cancun came back to eat, we left some food for them.. they said sorry.. I said, don't worry about it.. and we all just pretended nothing happened and talked like everything was normal..

When sunset was closing in, I went to sit with Biggy outside and we talked some more.. nothing much was said about the drama, but he did mention something along the lines of.. "It takes two to tango".. hahaha. Sweetie came to us later and profusely apologized to us... we brushed it off..

When it was already dark, we started packing up to go back to Dahab..I took a position at the back of the pickup truck such that I could lie down and face the sky.. and the view was simply amazing.. it was so dark, so quiet, the silence only broken by the truck's engine.. for 90 minutes, I was only watching the stars, while listening to Jason Mraz's latest album on my ipod.. it was one of the most amazing feelings I've ever experienced.. incredible really..

Although it wasn't the first time I've seen that many stars, in fact I've seen many more and even more amazing views when I was in Southern Australia.. but somehow the feeling was different.. it was more poignant, more meaningful.. I guess it had to do with me traveling alone.. and the many feelings that came with it throughout my trip.. I just cannot explain it really..

By the time we got back to Dahab, we said our goodbyes.. it was Biggy's and Sweetie's last night in Egypt.. I went to check in a new backpackers place for the night..

Two days later (the day before, I went to climb Mount Sinai aka Jabal Musa, so I didn't see High Pitt), I spent the whole day with High Pitt, he brought me to the Blue Hole on his recently repaired rented scooter.. while sitting on the small hill we hiked enjoy the view of the Blue Hole from a high point, we talked about what happened that day in Nabq.. what he felt, what really happened, why it happened etc.. he also asked whether I have Sweetie's contact details.. I did not... I made it a point to never suggest to keep in touch with any travelers I met, unless they suggest it themselves.. I'm ok with them being just fellow travelers that I've crossed paths with.

At one point, High Pitt said to me...

"Do you know what would be good thing to do right now?"

I sort of already guessed what he was gonna say.. but I didn't answer his question, I just looked sideways to him and gave a 'don't even think about it' look..

But he continued anyway and said, "Excuse me for being direct, but it would be really good to have sex here right now".

Hahahahahah shit. Out of reflex, I hit his legs.. and 5 minutes later, fearing that he might do something, I suggested we go down (where there were many people).. although if anything happened up there, I could scream and shout and people down by the beach will definitely hear me.. or I could kick him, and he would fall down the hill and could probably die or hurt himself really bad..

So we went down, walked to El Bells.. then drank some tea.. and drove back to Dahab, said our goodbyes.. and I left the next day, for Cairo.

Btw, why the nicknames?

High Pitt = he was high almost all the time, smoking weed.. and he also resembled Brad Pitt when he smiles.
Biggy = he was big, and his first name starts with the letter Y.
Cancun = he's the owner of a backpacker's hostel in Cancun, Mexico.
Sweetie = she is such a sweet, nice, pleasant girl.. and her sexy French accent is the icing on the cake.

Monday, April 29, 2013

Fortress of Solitude

Not only Superman has a fortress of solitude.

I'm now in Jeju island, have been since Saturday. I know i'm supposed to continue my story from my last post, i'll do that when i get back ok.

Its the second time i'm here. Bought the flight tickets on impulse. I was feeling like crap, so I wanted some peace of mind, and get away from everyone. Which is not easy to do in a small and isolated university, and with the amount of school work that i have, its almost impossible to get a break.

So yeah, i'm running away. But I'm going back tmrw coz i have class..

I wish i can stay here longer.

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Under the Stars (Part 1)

Music: Spiderwebs by No Doubt

Last week was the first time i looked at the pictures from my trip back in January. Yeah after 3 months. I dont know why i didnt have the urge before. Or im just plain lazy like that.

Anyway, the memories came flooding back.. And i would like to recall my experience in Dahab.. get ready for a long read, coz im just in the mood to write, and my 4 days in Dahab is the favorite part of my month-long trip.. and my memory is still fresh... hehe.

This small coastal getaway was my first stop in Egypt, as i had come via ferry from Jordan (that experience deserves its own entry, some other time ok). I didnt read much about Dahab. I only know that i wanted to see the blue hole and climb Jabal Musa here. I arrived, without any accommodations reserved. It was deserted, nobody was up and about yet and it was 10am.

I was walking aimlessly, trying to find where to stay based on some recommendations by the american whom i took a taxi ride with from Nuweiba port to Dahab. Muhammad started chatting me up, offered me to stay at his hotel for a cheap price, i told him to bring me to the money exchanger first, then we looked at the room, before i agreed. I walked around to take some pics of the gorgeous blue Red Sea, then i flatlined until sunset coz of the sleepless night i had on the overnight ferry.

Woke up and found out the water wasnt running n there was no electricity (i checked before checking in and both were available before i went to sleep) so i decided to take a walk.. I wasn't pissed at all about this. I surprised myself with my reaction at the time. Usually I get cranky when there's a blackout

Walked into a bookstore, turns out Muhammad owns the store.. Met a couple, a Canadian-Mexican-American (sounds like he has an identity problem, lol) and a French girl.. (lets call them Cancun and Sweetie), i found out later they were previously in a relationship, they've broken up, but decided to travel together again.. so the status is "complicated". haha. then 2 German guys came in, one of them came in to check on his broken rented scooter (oh, the bookstore also doubled as a bike rental store, and fixes broken bikes too). 5 of decided to get some dinner.. and the couple who has been staying in Dahab for a month coz they love the place so much, brought us to this Sudanese restaurant.. and the food was awesome~~~~~ the taste is similar to Malay food..and when i used my hands to eat, the Sudanese cook praised me.. saying this is the right way to eat.. awwyeahhhh. Another older Egyptian who is friends with the Sudanese restaurant owner came to join us.. we talked and drank tea.. he lives and works in London, but he came back to Egypt to buy a house coz he wanted to retire there... and we talked and talked and talked until late.. went to eat some halawiyat (sweets.. sama geng with bakhlava).. tried the kinafah coz to compare with Jordan's... was not as good.. I think from now on I will try all the kinafahs in the world, if i have the chance to go to more middle east/arab countries again..

After some discussion, all of us, minus the old guy decided to hangout at Nabq the next day..over an hour drive from Dahab, southwards, nearby Sharm El Sheikh.. one of the German guy, lets call him High Pitt, is a marine biologist currently doing some research in Dahab for his masters degree.. and the other German is his friend who was there to visit.. lets call him Biggy.. so High Pitt was going on about how nice this place is, and about the mangrove area there, which he claimed is super beautiful and nice and what not..

After halawiyeh, we went to get some shisha at one of the quieter places in town, the shop facing the sea.. and drank more tea.. that night i bought some candles coz my lodge was still blacked out. The next morning, i asked Muhammad about whether we gonna get back the water and electricity, turns out we will not.. i wanted to pay him, then he said he wasnt going to charge me.. my first night in Egypt and I stayed for free.. nice eyy..

By the time High Pitt came to pick me up, they came 30 minutes late, but we started out even later because Cancun and Sweetie, who was also staying at the same place where i was, needed some time to pack up all their things (remember they've been living there for a month).. and move out to another place. and Sweetie was actually leaving the next day to finally meet her family after traveling non-stop for 1 and a half years.. and this had to happen to her on her second last day in Dahab..

So off we went, eating the super delicious falafels that High Pitt bought on the back of a pickup truck.. riding off towards Nabq, driven by a bedouin and his uncle (i forgot their names.. maybe the younger one was called Hussein i think).. we had to stop in the middle of some desert because Cancun had to throw up.. he went to the back of some small hill somewhere.. while we waited.. High Pitt started being physical with Sweetie.. hugging, touching her ass.. sitting very close.. etc.. when Cancun wasn't around.. I can see that Sweetie welcomed it.. hahahaha.. technically Cancun and Sweetie weren't together, but they had a history of course. all this i didn't know yet at the time...

Cancun came back, we went on our way.. stopped at a small bedouin village where they lived next to the sea, right on the shores of the Red Sea.. to buy some fish.. for lunch.. or actually, little did i know it was going to be for early dinner coz by the time we ate it was at 5pm. our guides stopped us at an empty roofless dwelling, where we put our stuff.. they started preparing things etc... the rest of us went to take some pics together.. then Biggy and I decided to walk to a nearby shipwreck.. called the Maria Schroeder shipwreck.. i don't know the history or anything about this wreck.. the couple went to walk together.. and High Pitt went to walk alone around the mangrove area..

Biggy was really cool.. in fact, i had many conversations with him on many interesting topics, he's open  minded.. basically we hit it off the moment we met in the bookstore the night before.. he's also doing his masters.. so i chose to hangout with him.. he also has a very keen eye on things that are hidden. he can spot camouflaged animals, shells, plants, even small ones.. and he would point them out to me.. and pick them up for me to have a better look.. after our short excursion to the ship wreck, we went to find High Pitt at the mangrove area...

..to be continued

Sunday, March 03, 2013

Do I Know Myself?

Music: The Mission by 30 Seconds to Mars

So I'm back in this godforsaken university.. another year to go. Nevertheless, the moon is shining so bright and the sky so clear that my lightless room is illuminated like a spot light. If there is only one thing I could miss when I leave this place it would be the amazing view of the sea from my room balcony. Anyway, since its back to mundane student life, there's nothing much to tell on what is currently going on in my life. I did become emcee during the new students' orientation a few days back though, if you think that is exciting story. However, there are so many stories to be told regarding my solo trip to Egypt and Jordan. So many that I really have no idea where to start. I probably should break it down into themes.. or just write whatever I feel like at any one time, eh?

Referring to the title of this post, I ask in retrospect now, after all that has happened the past year, and most significantly, the past 2 months, how much do I really know myself? How much more have I yet to discover? (Btw I went to Vietnam too, so its 3 countries in a span of 7 weeks).

Solo travelers usually blog about how traveling solo brings about amazing discoveries about oneself..

Thinking back, and what I found out about myself was that, I am quite a brave person (this is not an angkat bakul statement), bordering reckless even, considering I was a woman alone in one of the places where woman don't usually travel to alone (i.e. Egypt). A few times I put myself in a dangerous situation, yet I'm so lucky that when nothing bad happened to me, I don't learn from my scary experiences and went on being reckless again. After a thorough and long process of self-diagnose, it appears to me that my trusting nature that most people only have good intentions is the culprit. Actually I have been wayyyy less trusting of people than say 5 years ago, but I guess its still a wee bit too much. I've recounted many stories about my trip to many friends, part crazy part hilarious and part dangerous, except for two stories which I am sort of ashamed to tell anyone. Don't be worried or alarmed though, nothing bad happened to me, and I didn't do anything wrong/sinful either. Its just that I am ashamed to tell the story because it happened due to my own stupidity and recklessness and naivety, despite all the experiences I have on me.

As much as the whole solo trip was a wonderful and exciting experience for me, I would strongly advice against women traveling solo to Egypt, unless you are a seasoned traveler that can handle situations like being physically harassed constantly or being followed, or when nothing ever goes to plan, calmly (calm is key, don't panic, so you can think of a way out clearly). I was probably a "half-ripe" traveler before this trip, but now I'm well seasoned I think, hahaha. Btw, Jordan is much safer than Egypt in general, although the two dangerous situations that I was in, which I've kept a secret from everyone, happened to me in Jordan.

Anyway, I also discovered that I can totally spend time alone and not feel lonely. I really do know how to enjoy my own company (selingan: I could actually write "enjoy myself", but after watching a marathon of Game of Thrones and 2 Broke Girls, everything sounds dirty to me hahaha). Being alone is actually a much easier thing to do in a foreign place because, well, for the sole reason that everything's foreign! Nothing is familiar, therefore there are so many things to discover, to see, to digest. Although it would be fun to have a companion for me to make jokes and give comments about the things and people I see and encounter.. but its something I got used to, talking to no one and everyone in particular. In fact, many a time I feel lonelier among friends, even close friends, than when I'm alone. Like right now.

I also discovered how much of a bad thing I can handle, and its quite amazing really. In many situations, I would imagine someone I know traveling with me, and wonder whether those people can take it or not. Some people made the cut, some people failed miserably (ahhh.. the things we come up with to entertain ourselves). Anyway, its pretty easy really, the key is to always have an open mind and an enormous sense of humor. Faith in what Allah has planned for us is of course definite, its the thing that have kept me sane and grounded and not want to kill myself (totally exaggerated for effect) all these years. Trust that everything will go well, and Allah will keep you safe if you pray to him sincerely and always (not only when you're in trouble).

Ok I'm planning to ganti puasa this whole week, before winter is over.. its time for sahur now. Till my next entry. 

Saturday, January 12, 2013

Sunset Blues

At this moment, im sitting by the beach in Aqaba, Jordan, looking out to the Red Sea, just after sunset.. On the other side of the sea is a city in Israel called Eilat. Its about 6-9 deg celcius cold.. Al-Sharif Husein bin Ali Mosque behind me has just finished maghrib prayers, i planned to go and was ready with wuduk when i left the hotel but a teenage boy wanted a pic w me just now as i was walking down the beach and he shook my hand after. A dear old man with a thick graying beard, probably Egyptian by his looks.. just passed by. He was picking up trash and cleaning up the beach.. I start to think how he ended up here, doing this job.. Earning an honest wage to feed his family.. Maybe he's an educated man but because of the situation on Egypt, he cant find a better job.. (Assuming he's Egyptian). Another teenage boy just asked if i wanted coffee.. La shukran..

Its at least 8 hrs before my ferry leaves for Nuweiba, Egypt. Just gonna have to past the time.. Im having separation blues coz my travelmates have gone back to Irbid..
A group of Malaysian students took me on a wonderful roadtrip.. Not without its challenges.. Its been a pretty crazy and cool and awesome 12 days.. Im all alone now. Will be until i reach Cairo in about 5-6 days Insya Allah.

Maybe i should head back to hotel now and watch some movies.. Its getting prettty cold already..

Another teenage boy just passed by and said to me "welcome to Jordan".. Thank you very much! I'll be leaving now, thanks for the wonderful memories and of course the delicious Jordanian delicacies.. :)

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