Because sometimes I do things without thinking...or maybe I DO think them through then impulsively act... Yesterday the man of the house and I took Daisy up to DSS for her visit with bio mom. While we were waiting to go upstairs to begin the visit, I heard a familiar voice. At first...I couldn't place it. Then I realized it was Felix's grandmother. I was at a loss for words. I smiled at her, turned and walked up stairs as the caseworker came in to meet us. Instant replay in mind told me I should have asked about Felix or given my condolences... Hindsight...20/20 Visit went well...bio mom asked me if we planned on keeping Daisy if she gets adopted out. The man of the house was right there and sympathetic to bio mom but my answer to her was "you have to ask the caseworker about that. It's WAY to early in the game to be thinking that way. Besides...don't you want her back???" She told me that she is aware that bio dad has had 3 kids adopted out of the system and I think she realizes she already defeated. She suffered a traumatic brain injury as a child and is incapable of taking care of Daisy for more than an hour alone. The rest of the visit was ok. We left but I still had regrets for NOT saying anything to Felix's grandma. Fast forward to this morning...she was still on my mind so I called her. I left a message on her cell telling her that if she needs child care for Felix and his 5 y/o sister (Haven) I was more than willing to help out. I also told her how sorry I was for her loss and left my number if she felt like getting back to me. No big deal...right?!?!? HOLY *%$@! SHE CALLED ME BACK!!! I just got off the phone with her. I once again explained that I was willing to help her out with both the kids if she needed a break and she said she'd take me up on it. :) I asked her about Haven and how she was dealing with her papa's death and she told me all about it. While my heart DOES go out to her...I think this is an amazing thing that happened. To be able to watch Felix and Haven grow up would be a blessing. I am still a little in shock that I had the frame of mind to do that... I'm a little giddy now. I may even be able to post pictures!! :)