Bonding...

Little Mighty started Unsupervised visits with his bio mom and dad. I have seen many red flags with his behavior and his attitude in general but there is nothing that he is doing that would stop visits from being unsupervised.  The bios have told the case worker that they fed him then when he has come home he has eaten an entire sandwich, a jar of fruit and drank 3/4 sippy cup of milk.  When I tell him no or take something from him he throws THE BIGGEST tantrums.  I am very concerned about his ability to bond.  I can tell he KNOWS who we are but his ability to make good eye contact and his lack of wanting to be held scares me.  He will be 17 months old later this month.  He is a very smiley boy so trying to convince the agency worker that I am concerned makes me seem crazy but the county worker agrees that the degree of abuse and neglect he has suffered can definitely make him a candidate for some type of Reactive Attachment Disorder.  The county that he is placed through is a county WELL KNOWN for reuniting children and their parents even though that are severe bonding concerns with him and his bios.  The agency worker told me that when she picked him up today after his visit that he was in an exersaucer.  He was only there for an hour and no one was holding him...so sad.  I assume there are still concerns for Winter (baby sister) and Bailey but no one has mentioned that anything has happened with the girls in a while.  The agency worker also mentioned that last week when she 'forgot' to pick up Little Mighty after a 2 hour visit bio mom was calling her cell phone asking when she was coming to pick him up.  You'd think she'd love more time with the  son she says she desperately wants home. 

I give up...

I just don't understand. Little Mighty's bios have not been consistent in visits with him.  They are entitled to 3 (one hour) SUPERVISED days a week.  They have not seen him all 3 days since before Christmas.  There have been 3 or 4 weeks that they haven't seen him at all. And now the county has decided to give the bios one hour Unsupervised a week. 

I'll never get it. On another note, the agency home finder asked if I'd be willing to be on the foster parent panel for MAPP in a few weeks.  I said yes.  I ordered the book "Welcome to the Roller Coaster" to give to each couple in the class.  Hoping to open their eyes to the realities of foster care. If you haven't had the chance to read it, I HIGHLY suggest it.  You can get it on Amazon here.