From Facebook friend to no friend in one click

I deleted one stalking female from my friends list and she spent 1 hour on the phone cussing me out.

I told her that I still wanted her to be my friend I just didn't need her stalking my facebook page. Her exact words "if we can't be Facebook friends...we can't be friends in real life." I also became the first person to EVER delete her from a Facebook friends list.

When did Facebook become this powerful?

Essence Music Festival 2010

I guess I'm 15 years late on the Essence Music Festival.

But it will not be 16 years. After thinking about it in 2009 and backing out when I couldn't find anyone to go with me, I'm going to the 16th anniversary of the EMF in New Orleans this summer during July 4 weekend.

I made up my mind late last summer that I was going in 2010 either solo, with a travel partner or with a group of people. Now, I'm glad it is going to happen. I have the hotel and flight already booked and I still haven't decided if I'm going to get concert tickets for all three nights or just two nights or just one night. But I will get those soon.

I have never been to New Orleans and it is one of the few U.S. Cities that I haven't been to that I wanted to see.

I've been to Boston (grew up there), New York City (party there now), Washington, D.C. (could see myself moving there some day), Atlanta (another place that I could see myself moving to some day), Philadelphia (party there sometimes), Baltimore, Orlando, Milwaukee, Chicago, Detroit, Dallas, Los Angeles, San Diego, Las Vegas, Indianapolis, Tampa, Miami and Charlotte.

But New Orleans, until now, hasn't made my list. I'm interested in tasting the food, walking around the French Quarter, going to the concerts at the Super Dome and checking out the seminars at the Convention Center and much more.

Any Essence Music Festival veterans out there...looking for tips for a first timer.

Pledge of a Lifetime (Part 8)

I have sinned.

I have broken my promise.

Not sure what the over/under was on how many weeks I could go without paying for a date in total but my PLEDGE OF A LIFETIME...lasted (drum roll please)....10 weeks.

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I broke my pledge on Saturday, Jan. 23 when I treated "Ms. S", 32, she was in health care administration, to a wonderful dinner and then a play. She loved it and we had a great time. We would go out with her several more times in January and into February...before I cut her loose on Feb. 21. She had more baggage than one luggage carousel at Newark International Airport.

For starters, she admitted she had a jealously problem when I first met her and that she was divorced but had no kids. That should have been red flag No. 1 and possibly red flag No. 2 but I avoided the warnings.

I would later find out....she doesn't handle stress well, she stopped working out, she would have a nervous breakdown over getting lost going to a spa and ruin her Valentine's Day gift, she would ask for permission to go through my cell phone (reading my text messages and call log in front of me), she would blow up at me for helping an elderly woman shovel out her spot before I shoveled out Ms. S's spot even though I fully intended to shovel out Ms. S's spot too, she was always making references to $$$, she's inept at fixing anything even putting in a toner cartridge on a printer, she also falsely accused me of cheating when I was spending almost every free moment outside of work at her place or taking her out or talking on the phone. The false accusation was the final straw and I cut her loose the next day. Now, she did do some nice things for me like cook several meals, bought me a valentine's day gift basket, etc....but the drama and baggage she brought was too much to handle.

I told her that no man would ever put up with a jealous woman like that...at least not me. We met once for lunch at short time after we severed ties. We kissed and said our goodbyes...I haven't heard from her since nor do I intend to ever contact her again.

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So...after dispatching "Ms. S" it was on to the next one...

I'll call her the "almost cougar" or "Ms. C". She was 35, single, no kids and never been married. She was a specialist for emergency management. She had a good career, drove a nice ride, owned two houses and even played the stock market. She had the body of a 25-year-old and worked out regularly. Impressive resume and of course everything looks good on paper.

However, she was a spoiled and incredibly cheap for someone that wasn't poor. Two things I detest in a woman...."spoiled" and "cheap"

I would later find out, she was reluctant to drive to my place and I had to beg her to come see me but was always willing to let me come to her place, she expects men she doesn't know to buy her and her girlfriends drinks, she wants her man or husband to work himself into the grave while she just chills at home, she criticized my location choice for an event when she has never been to that place herself and has been out with me before and knows I have good taste, she denied she went out with me somewhere in front of her friends, she didn't want to pay for dinner (just one time) when I had treated her several times to dinner and something else and DRUM ROLL PLEASE....would insist on signing a pre-nup and wouldn't marry a man that wouldn't sign a pre-nup. For the record, I don't believe in pre-nups unless you are filthy rich like these actors/actresses, singers and athletes.

To her credit, she did cook a few meals for me and she did pay for bowling on one date but that's about all she came out of pocket for during our time together.

Yeah...it was time for her to go. She's a nice woman but I can't stand women who feel entitled to stuff and women that are incredibly cheap. Dating isn't a one-way street but I find that black women seem to think it is.

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So, it is single and looking for the time being...