Scripture: Then Abram said to Lot, “Let there be no strife between you and me, and between your herdsmen and my herdsmen, for we are kinsmen. Is not the whole land before you? Separate yourself from me. If you take the left hand, then I will go to the right, or if you take the right hand, then I will go to the left.” Genesis 13:8-9
Observation: Abram and Lot have come to the realization that this town just isn’t big enough for the both of ‘em. Their flocks are too large and the pasture is too small. It is time to separate for the sake of the relationship. In doing so, Abram shows Lot great honor by giving him the choice of the better land.
In this, we do not get a sense that Abram or Lot had failed, or that God was displeased at their inability to get along. In fact, it seems that Abram is to be praised for the gracious way he handled the separation.
Application: Is there a time to separate for the sake of the relationship? I am not talking about commitments like marriage, but rather, temporary partnerships. Maybe two friends who try to be roommates. Perhaps a husband and wife that decide to work in the same office. Maybe someone who realizes there is too much baggage at their church for them to stay. Or two people realize they are better friends than partners.
Could it be that sometimes, things just are not going to work out? And for the sake of future relationship, and for the resolution of present strife, that a separation is in order? Could it be that this is not necessarily a failure in God’s eyes, especially if it is resolved well and handled with grace? Paul and Barnabus did the same thing—separation for the sake of the relationship. And God was able to bless both their journeys in new ways.
Prayer: Lord, I do not know what this means, other than maybe you offering me freedom from guilt and responsibility when a separation has to occur. If handled with graciousness, maybe what seems like an ending is a beginning of new opportunities for ministry and friendship. Help me think more about this and see your direction in how this would affect my life.
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