stream: destroy with callback

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We have an undocumented internal API on destroy with the a second callback argument. In some cases it is possibly not required or incorrectly used.

• avoid in async iterator (stream: async iterator destroy compat #29176)
• avoid in net (net: use callback to properly propagate error #29178)
• avoid in stream base (stream: use callback to properly propagate error #29179)
• avoid or make monkey patch safe in fs streams
• avoid in http2

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moved to meta document