(Back posts) from December 18...

All hell broke loose on December 18th.  The day AFTER my last post.  I'm writing it down for my records so it'll be a day by day, play by play. 

Thursday, December 18-  New baby is due to be born via scheduled C-section.  As I'm walking into Sprout's preschool for his holiday party my cell rings.  It's the agency supervisor calling to see if we'd be willing to take Little Mighty's 9 year old sister. We don't typically foster children older than our youngest so I knew hubby's answer would be no.  It was. 
I called the supervisor back to let her know and she said that they'd have to move Little Mighty to be with his sisters.  This new foster family would be bringing home new baby sister (blog name Winter) and older sister (blog name Bailey).   I asked when Little Mighty would be moved and I was told nobody knew.  Winter is born today. 

Friday, December 19- Called county worker to see if she had more info on whether or not Little Mighty would be with us for Christmas.  She said she could move the other girls and let him stay with us for Christmas but I told her that they should be together for the holiday.  As I was driving around stressing out about Little Mighty's progress and where he'd be for Christmas and how this wasn't fair and how much foster care sucks...God whispered to my heart "Be still".

Stressed all weekend wondering if Winter tested positive and wondered if we'd be called to take her or if new foster home would bring her home.  Phone never rang.

Monday, December 22- Called agency worker to see if there was any new info and she said there wasn't.  Called county worker and was told that the investigation was just beginning and anything could happen.  Found out that Winter did NOT test positive for drugs and she went home with bios from the hospital. No news to move Little Mighty' YET.

Tuesday, December 23rd- Sprout turns 4!! Happy Birthday big boy!
No news about Little Mighty moving.  I explained to the agency worker (Genie) that since we thought we'd have Winter for Christmas we cancelled our plans to be with family.  Now that we're not getting her we'd like either respite or to take Little Mighty with us.  One minute she said that they'll never let me take him and the next minute she was giving me permission to bring him with us.  They (bios) said yes!

Wednesday, December 24th- No news about Little Mighty moving but he had a visit with bios to celebrate Christmas Eve. 

Thursday, Christmas Day...Merry Christmas!!

Friday, December 26th- No visit because we spent the day out of town with Little Mighty and our family. 

Monday, December 29th- Visit as usual.  Bailey is home from school for vacation.

Wednesday, December 31st-  Visit

Friday, January 2nd- Regular transporter isn't available so Spanky fills in.  Did Little Mighty eat?  No.  Please have bios feed him.  When Spanky brought Little Mighty home he said they gave him 2 cookies for breakfast.  Really?! A baby who is in care for Failure to Thrive and malnutrition and you let them feed him cookies as a meal?! 

Monday, January 5th- Bios cancelled visit because they had to bring Bailey to a counseling appointment and Winter for a well baby visit.  This is wrong not only because Bailey missed school but also because the visits have been the same since October and they scheduled an appointment during one of the three hours they can see their son. 

Wednesday, Jan 7th- O/T after visit at bios house. 

Thursday, Jan 8th- bios cancelled O/T because it was too cold to bring Little Mighty outside.  (Little do they know he is running my errands with me and dropping off and picking up Sprout from preschool too).  O/T was rescheduled at my home.

Friday, January 9th- I bring Little Mighty for a regularly scheduled visit at normal time.  I called the agency worker (Genie) to come to the parking lot to get him and she informs me that the visit is later in the afternoon.  She insists she told me that it was changed.  Not only did she not tell me, but I wouldn't have agreed to afternoon visits because of my older children's after school activities.  She kept telling me she told me and I was extremely frustrated.  I called the county worker and asked when it was changed and informed her that I was never made aware of the change.  She apologized and told me that from now on I'd be kept in the loop because, you know, I have the baby and that kind of info is kinda important. 

So, as of now, Little Mighty is staying.  The girls are NOT coming into care and if they do they will NOT be placed here which means Little Mighty will move with them.  The one thing I've learned is to document everything.  Phone calls, visits and anything that will make this foster care roller coaster ride a little easier for the next passenger.   










 

Because that's just the way they roll...

If sarcastic had a font...this WHOLE post would be written in THAT FONT!!!

I LOVE the way CPS schedules an impromptu meeting with me then asks me if we'd be willing to take Baby Sister (who STILL needs a blog name).  They ask me to rearrange my schedule to accommodate a newborn.  Dr's appointments, longer visit times to promote bonding, yada yada...

THEN this week, the agency worker is telling me 'Well, it might not even happen'. 
Ok, did I mention that I shopped??? No big deal if it doesn't happen but WHY not WAIT to tell me about it then??  Supposedly THAT is the reason they scheduled the meeting. 

THEN, THEN I called the county worker and she is almost SURE we're getting baby sister.  Can anyone BE more unaware of what's going on?  I feel like the agency works to keep me on my toes.  The county does their best to keep me as informed as I need to be.  Right now, we ARE planning on taking Baby Sister.  Little Mighty has not been feeling well since the weekend and his visit was rescheduled for tomorrow.  He had a cold, an ear infection and high fever.  He is finally looking better and hopefully on the mend.  Bio parents were adamant that I not see one specific Dr in the pediatrician's office.  This HAPPENS to be the Dr that admitted them and obviously they are not happy.  There are 2 Dr's int he practice now that I 'cannot make appointments with'.  Whatever dude.  I am seriously clueless about how this case will end.  The Dr and Barbie, the transporter are the only ones who seem to see these bios for what and who they really are.  It's very hard for me to be impartial.  I see what neglect has done to Little Mighty and it makes me angry with them.   

Shopping...

I'm getting a bit anxious about New Baby Sister (who desperately needs a blog name).  I already know what her full name will be. Bio parents told me a few weeks ago.  They are VERY excited about her name and if you ask me, it's mean. So she needs a cute nickname and a blog name! I've purchased a few things since I found out we are getting her.  Little Mighty was born scheduled C-section and he was 6 pounds.  I shopped according to that.  I still have to buy diapers, socks, pacifiers and decide what bottles I'm going to use.  I am also crocheting a blanket for her :) Stay tuned. Just a few more weeks!!! 

They asked...

The county worker and Genie, the agency worker, stopped by on Wednesday. The county worker asked if we'd be willing to take Little Mighty's baby sister when she's born next month. We said yes. I know they're not telling me everything because the worker TOLD ME she's not telling me everything. I guess that bio mom gave permission for C*P*S to have her test results from her ob/gyn and they came back positive for drugs. (Little Mighty was also born with a positive tox screen and able to go home with bios).  

Bio mom doesn't know that the baby will be taken and I'm sure she will go crazy.  The county worker also mentioned that bio mom is complaining she needs a bigger house because she wants each child to have their own room so they don't wake each other up. Then Genie suggested that bio mom have the new baby room with her and bio dad and she said something like she doesn't want the new baby in her room because she didn't want to hear her cry. Did I mention that they (we) think that Little Mighty was left alone in a crib (or pack n play) and not stimulated or fed??  I'm thinking its a good call on the county's part! New baby sister needs a blog name!